Frustration? You are Welcome!!

frustration“When experiencing frustration, you can let frustration lead you or you can lead frustration to support you in what you want to get.”                       My inner voice.

 

It is a dark, cold Friday night of February. The living rooms of the small houses surrounding me were enlightened by the soft moving shades of the television screen or by a luminous halo pending from the sealing.

It is 20.30. The cold weather of London, is now starting penetrating into my bones.

I lost the sensitivity on my hands and feet long time ago and I am now just waiting for somewhere warm where to rest my body.

Me and my friend Raphael have been walking constantly, with fast pace since 3.30, time of the beginning of the shift.

Yes, just the 2 of us today to make a difference for the people affected by cancer that McMillan is brightly supporting.

It is 20.30.

After 5h of hard work we were been able just to get 1 sign up…

The end of the shift is getting closer and the temperature is dropping. Dozens of people don’t even come to the door or don’t want hear abut us…

It is in that moment, while knocking in front of number 1, Palmer Street, that I catch myself saying:

“Why am I doing all this?” “Who is making me work as a door to door foundraiser?” “Why can’t I find a job in the warmth of an office?”

Is in that moment that I catch these thoughts, running wildly into my head.

I felt really down. And more I let myself down, more the people were responding negatively to me, slamming doors in front of my face.

Is in that moment that I decided to have a small team leading session inside my own head.

For an easier writing I’ll call my frustrated self F and my motivational self M. I hope you will enjoy the little drama that was going on inside my head in that moment.

M started this motivational talk saying to F:

“I know you feel frustrated, I know you are not getting what you were expecting from the day, and I know it is tough keep walking with the same level of energy for 5 hours, under this cold weather. And I am sorry you have to experience all this. I am sorry you have to go true such a tough moment.”

F replied: “Thank you… I really need a brake… I cannot keep working this way… I feel too frustrated.”

“Well, I agree with you, just stop for a minute and have a sip of water. I am sure you will soon feel better…” continued M.

So I stopped, and took a large glass of water from the termos I was carrying inside my bag.

M then continued:

“You know F, you know how the Universe works. All the difficulties you are facing along the way are a gift for you. This is your present now. I know you are aware that just challenging yourself you can grow and develop the skills that will allow you to overcome future challenges.”

M was right, I knew inside that I am creating this reality and what I am manifesting is what I need to grow and develop spiritually, mentally and physically. I knew it… but somehow that knowledge slipped into a remote place of my mind.

M kept on saying: “You are going to always experience frustration in your life when you are not getting what you want. There is nothing wrong. Frustration is a human feeling and is part of our perfection. There is nothing you can do about that. What you can do instead is to manage your frustration and let her be your best ally.”

F went silent for a while allowing M to move on with the talk.

“When experiencing frustration, you can let frustration lead you or you can lead frustration to support you in what you want to get. You know you have the power to do it. You know you have the power to understand, lead and manage your emotion in the way that will serve you manifesting what you really want.”

“Wow… What a great motivator!!!” Another voice, that now I call G, popped up from nowhere said to me.

M then took the leadership of my mindset and my emotional state, guiding F towards every door and handling in the best possible way every situation that came up afterwards.

5 minutes to 9.

Last door and then the shift was over.

A gentle and beautiful woman from Hungary opened the door greeting me with a beautiful smile. It seems she was waiting just for me. We started laughing and talking about food, holidays, Hungary and Italy. Needless to say that she wanted to sign up immediately allowing me to raise founds for McMillan and reaching my best personal and team score as a team leader since I started working for Home Foundrasing.

I kept believing I could make it until last minute, until last door.

I kept my motivation high and did the best I could each door I knocked.

It seems that the Universe was testing me and observing me, pushing me to the point where I had just to choices: Drop or Win.

I won, I won the inner battle that was taking place between my hears, handling it with the warmth and wisdom of my heart.

 

It is in those days that I realise how much I have developed, how much I have changed and I much I still have to grow.

It is in those days that I thank the Universe for what is giving to me and for what I am manifesting in my life.

It is in those days that I would like to see and give him/her an HI FIVE for the perfection of each moment.

 Your Turn

Now I invite you to think about a challenging situation you have experienced recently you could handle in a better way.

Reflect above the following questions:

 

  • What were you saying to yourself?
  • What could you say instead?
  • What are you going to say next time it will happen?

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May You always lead frustration!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

 

ISBA. How to develop an Entrepreneurial mind

entrepreneurial mind“Try not to be a man of success but rather try to become a man of value.” A. Einstein

Following the highly inspirational day with Sabian Muhammad from Enterprise Lab,  talking at the 80 Young People now participating at the NCS programme, I’ve been moved to share with You this article about How to develop an entrepreneurial mind.

(Click on the mind map for the enlarged picture)

What do all great entrepreneurs have in common?

What do Tony Robbins, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, Sir Ken Robinson have in common? and What strategy do they use? If I started the day with these questions, surely after Seiban talk I came back with all the answers. Great Entrepreneurs have a set of procedures that, consciously or unconsciously are following all the time. A set of procedure that make the Entrepreneurial Mind. A Great Entrepreneur is Inspired: entrepreneurs are moved from a vision, a vision that comes from creating a solution to people’s challenges and needs. A vision in constant expansion, a global scale vision. They understand people’s needs and challenges and use their creativity, skills and talents to create the World they would Love to leave to their future generations. Great Entrepreneurs have a strong belief in themselves, their vision and their capabilities; a belief telling them that Everything is Possible, that failure is just another learning opportunity that will allow them to improve.

“I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”                    T. Edison

mmm… interesting.. and so, what is the strategy that Great Entrepreneurs use to have such a big impact on people’s life?

Wise question! I’ve been introduced to this model by Seiban. And this is the model that every entrepreneur has to bear in mind every time the “creative bulb” starts lightening. The Model is called ISBA. ISBA stands for, Issue, Solutions, Barriers, Actions.

ISBA…. well… and How can I practically use ISBA?

Hold on!! ahaha!! I see awakening the Entrepreneur within You!!

Now I’m going to briefly talk through each section, spotting the key points of each step.

1. Issue

The first step is to identify the Issue, the problem that You want to solve. Ask Yourself these questions:

  • What is that You really care about?
  • What do You Love in Life?
  • What do You really care about?
  • What is the main change You would like to see in Your community, society, World?
  • If You were to see Yourself 70 Years from now, What would You like people to remember You for? What impact have You left in Your society?
  • What is that moves You and excite You to the point to dedicate Your Life to It?

dig deeper… This is part of Your Life Purpose.

For Example, My Purpose is to support children, youths and adults connecting with themselves, find the Purpose they have lost, creating the Happy Life they deserve to Live.

Answer those questions and then move to step 2.

2. Solutions

  • After having identified what challenge You want to see solved, that moves You to the point where You see is Your mission in Life to solve it, it is time to brainstorm all the possible solutions. Remember, there are no right or wrong answers at this stage, just ideas. The Ideas will flow and tap into Your creative self. Everything is possible if You believe so.

Answer now the following questions:

  • What can You do to solve this challenge?
  • What else can You do? (ask this one several times until You feel exhausted!)
  • What have other people, who faced the same challenge, done in the past? What can You take from Their experience?
  • If You have all the resources (money, time, support) You need, what would You do?
  • What would Your role model do to solve the challenge?

Move now to step 3.

3.Barriers

In this phase You are going to take a deep look into what is really stopping You achieving it. The internal and external obstacles You have found, You find and You might find. The resources that You need and the support that is missing. What You really need also in terms of Knowledge and skills.

Ask Yourself:

  • What obstacles might come up on the way?
  • What obstacles I’m facing now?
  • What do I need that I don’t have? (support, knowledge, skills..)

and now, after a detailed look You can move to the last phase.

4.Actions

Now You have the opportunity to plan the tasks to overcome every obstacle and eventually create the reality You were aiming for. It doesn’t have to be a massive action, but a small, daily improvement will lead You beyond Your best expectations. Also You might want to think How You are going to move through, Who is going to do those or support You, and When You are going to do those.

Remember: “A Goal is a dream with a date.”

Now it is time for questions!!

  • What are You committed to do to overcome every obstacle?
  • What sets of actions will build Your action plan?
  • What are the actions that will bring You the biggest expected results?
  •  How are You going to do each of those actions?
  • Who is going to do those actions or support You?
  • When are You committed to do those?

WWow!!! This is Mindblowing!!!! BOOOMM!!! I love it!!

A special Thanks to Enterprise Lab to be so inspiring and for sharing this valuable tool!

I decided to attach to each post a mind map, so, if You don’t want to read it entirely, You’ll have the chance to know the key point of every post!

What do You think about it?

I’m looking forward Your feedbacks!!

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always be ISBA!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~