Overcoming Challenges: The fine art of Acceptancy

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA“I embrace the imperfections and celebrate them.”             Kesha

Struggles, desires, challenges, wants and needs. Sometimes, through the storms and winds of everyday’s challenges,  it seems there is no time or space to enjoy Life. It feels we are like little hamsters, trying to keep up running on our wheel of bills, responsibilities and duties.

Until last year I was running on this wheel. My thoughts were focused on how to pay my bills, how to have enough money for my basics, where I was going to get waisted on the weekend or planning a holiday in the best place to get waisted.

That thoughts and that lifestyle, even though I enjoyed it, don’t resonate with me any more. I’m now looking for something else, I’m now looking for a deeper meaning behind my actions and outcomes.

So, one sunny day of July 2011, motivated by the insightful and eye-opening Experience Week in the spiritual community of Findhorn in Scotland, the spiritual teachers and motivators I was listening to, I choose to change. I choose to take responsibility of my Life. I choose to identify my purpose and do the best I could do to live with integrity and do my part in the world. I choose to make the first step and allow the abundance I deserved to come into my Life.

From that moment, the moment I took that decision, my Life unfolded in ways I would never expected….

I’ve been given more challenges than before, more deep dark moments, more situations in which I didn’t now how I was going to make it. But it wasn’t all. Alongside with challenges I’ve been given all the help and the support to mature, grow and overcome them. I’ve been meeting loving people who became the friends that never hesitated to help me when I was in need and to celebrate joyful and happy moments. I’ve been given all the opportunities I was looking for in the field I’m working and I’ve been given the wisdom to follow through every tough moment.

…well… Have You ever found Yourself asking the question “Why me?” “Why do I have to through all this crap?”

You bet it!!! And it wasn’t long time ago since the last time. Have You ever experienced these moments where everything seems to go wrong? where health, finances and emotional balance seems to say goodbye, take a flight and go in holiday in the Canary Islands? It was one night, stuck in my bad with a terrible headache, I decided to listen to one of the conference call from the online seminar, Healing with the Masters, hosted by Jennifer McLean, interviewing the spiritual teacher Panache Desai.

It was the first time for me to hear his Truths. His words resonate within me immediately and his message, so clear and straight to the point, like an arrow, brake through my heart.

… and what was his message?

His message was very simple and comforting. I broke it down for You in little steps.

  • STRESS IS OUR CLOSEST FRIEND. IT SHOWS US WHAT CHANGES WE HAVE TO MAKE IN OUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU AND YOUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX.
  • EVERYTHING IS PERFECT AS IT IS. YOU AND THE REALITY YOU ARE EXPERIENCING.
  • EMBRACE EVERY MOMENT, EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS TO YOU.
  • EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS IS THE OPPORTUNITY YOU’VE BEEN WAITING FOR YOUR GROWTH. 

His key message is to EMBRACE AND ACCEPT OURSELVES IN THE WAY WE ARE AND OUR EXPERIENCE AS OUR GREATEST MASTER.

I’ve heard these concepts before, but now I was ready to really listen and learn.

And if You are here, it means You are now ready. If You are here it means that You want something more from Life and that You want to give more.

Well, I’m not saying this is easy to do, and I’m not saying that the pain of some experiences is easy to overcome. And it is fine to experience that pain, it is fine to experience that sorrow, it is fine to experience that frustration. There is nothing wrong with all of that. It is part of our human experience, it is part of our beauty. But we don’t want to stay stuck in this cycle. We want to acknowledge them just as they are: feelings. When we experience this new realm of reality, when we are willing to surrender to our experience, embrace it and learn from it, we are then ready to be thankful to what happened to us and to move on, grown and stronger than before.

….and what happens next?… what happens after I embrace my feelings and my experience?

I cannot tell You what will happen to You, that will be Your reality and part of Your own path. But I can share with You what happened to me. As soon as I stepped in this process, something amazing started to manifest. My body started healing immediately, I received a phone call who sorted out my financial situation and amazing opportunities opened up for the near future. It seems like somebody was just waiting for me to make this step. It seems like somebody listened to my call. I cannot express the feeling of gratitude I have now in my chest. I’m now certain that no matter what, everything is going to be fine, because, no matter what everything is fine in every moment.

Your turn:

If You are now facing a tough period in one area of Your Life, I’d love to share with You these steps that helped Me to detach, embrace, assess and brake through. I hope this will be useful also for You.

  1.  Take a breath. A very long deep breath.
  2. Focus Your attention on Your hearth, feel Your Heart, feel that sacred space, where no worries or problems are allowed, that place where You are an infinite field of possibilities, that place that is the realm of Love.
  3. Now say to Yourself, like talking to a little child, that everything is perfect as it is. That You are perfect as You are. That there is nothing to be worried about. That everything is fine. Ensure Yourself like You were the most important person in the world.
  4. Now ask Yourself the following questions and write down the first thing that comes into your mind. Don’t judge it, even if it seems it has no sense. Remember, there is no thing that is meaningless.
  5. What is in this experience for me? What can I learn?
  6. What is in this experience for Us? What can We learn?
  7. Knowing what I know now, what can i do different next time?
  8. Knowing what I know now, what can I say to myself next time I’m going to live this experience?
  9. And now be thankful to yourself, be thankful to your experience and be thankful to your emotions.
  10. You are now ready to move, stronger than before, wiser than before, and more focused than before. You now know what to do. Don’t wait more. Do it! and enjoy the gift of Life.

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When was the last time you did something new?

Hello beautiful people!!

Today has been a great day, full of wonder, magic and connection. A day in which the vibration of love, gratitude and happiness were passing through my body in constant flow.

Today I took the first steps with mailchimp and grouping all my contacts, for the SEXY and JUICY newsletter that will be available to you in a couple of days! Also, a refreshing and grounding kundalini session, and a power nap around 13.00 completely restored my energies allowing me to cycle more than 15 miles! I’m also really proud by my first successful English class and the meeting with Steve and Wendy, members of the Uber Team Wandsworth  that from Monday will facilitate the transition and self discovery of hundreds of Inspiring Young People at the NCS (National Citizen service).

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Thinking about what happened today, what I’m really grateful for is the pinky sky of London under which my bike ride on Gratitude(the name of my bike) turned to be the best ever!

Also I recognise the value of the meaningful chat with Steve and Wendy.

Around the end of the conversation, Steve, inspired from Albert Einstein, asked Us:

“When Was the Last time You did something New?”

I believe is challenging question to answer, because it has a double blade. Or One’s Life is so repetitive that one does the same things day after day (maybe complaining because of the monotony of it ). Or, on the other end, One’s Life is so rich and growing that is difficult to choose which one to pick.

Where are You on this scale?

What can You do today to make Your Life More JUICY and SEXY?

I prefer the SEXY side of it, so it is difficult to count all the new things I have learned or done in the last 5h…

But there is one thing I have learned, that I’d like to share with You.

One skill that is really making some moment of my life really funny and special.

What is it?

I’ve learned how to Bike Stand at the red traffic lights!!!!!!!! SEXY!!!!

Now, I embrace every red light with joy and fun (sometimes hoping for it). Every red light is now a new game, a new challenge!

My goal is to stand at 10 consecutive red light, always standing on my bike!!

I’ll make it!!!

Thank You for being with me also tonight and I wish joyful dreams!!

When it all began (part 1)

Hello!!

Today I’m inspired to talk to you about me, and in particular about the exciting journey that led me to work as a coach! I cannot say it has been all rose, flowers and joy… I had to pass through very challenging growing experiences, which now I’m grateful for. Experiences that led me to where now I am and who I am….

It all started 2 years ago, around September 2010, just after my 22nd birthday. At the moment I was living in Sheperd’s bush and working at Assaggi, a famous Italian restaurant in Notting Hill. I couldn’t complain about my income and my lifestyle too. I was travelling once a month visiting different European capitals, I had a very active sexual life, going to the gym everyday and my body was in perfect shape ( or I thought so). I was fairly happy, but after one year of the same routine I started getting bored, desiring something more from my life, something to look for, something that could stretch me. So I took the decision that I wanted more from the life I was living. I wanted to grow. Smoking pots and partying at night, wasn’t the life I was planning to live in the future, even though I was enjoying  it very much!

And as usual, when the student is ready, the right master appears. And funny enough, the right master was a website… Yes!! A Website!! http://www.piuchepuoi.it/ It is the main Italian personal development website full of free resources and online programmes. It took me a while to really grasp what was all about, but I had the feeling that everything that was written there was really important for my life if I wanted to bring it to a new level. Then I started, daily to spend my time diving into the free article and programmes. And it was there that I met 2 words, new to my vocabulary, that shaped my life, paving the street to where I am now. These 2 words were: Life Coach, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming).

And the more I was reading, the more my passion was growing. One day, while I was doing an excursion at the Waterstone Library of Notting Hill Gate, my sight was captured by a book entitled “The NLP Coach” written by Ian McDermot and Wendy Jago (Which I highly recommend as self-development book). As soon as the book touched my hands, I knew that I had to buy it, that there was something in there for me .

I was reading the book and absorbing the content any time I could. In particular during the long journeys in the tube. And one day…. One day that started like any other day, while reading in the carriage of the tube that was carrying me to Notting Hill, a gorgeous woman with his charming husband, broke my focus, asking me what I was reading. Princess D and Pradeep Mishra, that turned out playing an important role in my life 1 year later. They were both working as coaches and trainers on their company Alchemy Training. We started immediately connecting on a deeper level. Like we have been knowing each other for years. And was in that moment that she mentioned the name of an academy…. Called the Coaching Academy, that was hosting free 2 days events to explain the coaching principles…..

As soon as I got home I knew that the right next steps for me were to turn on the laptop, go to the website of the coaching academy and book myself for the free event.

And it was in that moment, that something magical happened…

Love and Light to You

Ripple effect

Today I’ll leave a video talk about my feelings in this moment.

I remember the first time I watched it… I was in Maranello, dealing with the coaching material for my diploma.

In a moment of pause I decided to open my email, where I found this gift from my dear friend Andreia Silva. That made my day, leaving me with tears of joy in my eyes and happy feelings in my chest for the rest of the day.

Everytime I watch it I still feeling strong, delicate emotions running through my eyes in the form of tears.

I want to share with you this little gift that had so much meaning for me.

Relating to the video, I’d love to quote the words that Phil, a dear friend of mine, shared with me, with tears of truth in his eyes:

“My purpose in life is to enhance the life of the people I Love. I don’t know the effect that my actions of Love can create, but Love is like stone throne into a calm pond, we don’t know the how far the ripple effect can spread.” 

What Can you do today to enhance the life people around you that you Love?

If you have to take one action to enhance the life of the people around you that you Love, what would it be?

Mine for today is to call a friend and tell him how much I miss him and how much he means for me. Tell him I care about him and I love him.

May You always be in the ripple!!

A Gift from the Universe

Hello, I hope I’m finding you well and happy!!

Tonight post is very brief and straight forward.

I’d Love to share with you the amazing gift that the universe prepared for me tonight.

Today around 14.00 I received a call. It was Fabio, the manager of Amico Bio. Unfortunately for him, he told me  he felt very sick and he couldn’t work at the restaurant for the night.

Fortunately now is better and tomorrow will be ready to lead the bridles of my last shift.

Well.. I have always been a prima donna and I love to have the light of the attention on top of me. This is the reason why I work best when I can act on the stage of the floor in the way I want.

So, Fabio’s sickness gave me the opportunity to shine and step into my best resources for tonight!

The night has been great, 78 people Happy, great teamwork with the other waitresses, lot of tips and a lot of laughs! I’m really proud of how I directed the orchestra tonight.

And for this, I have to thank Fabio and all the teachings he shared with me.

I feel to acknowledge one in particular: “A waiter work with his head, not with the feet.”

And this is what I have done tonight. And a lesson I want to remember for my life ahead in other areas of my life!

I’m so grateful today for the synchronistic opportunity to shine on the stage of Amico Bio, and for the teachings that he always shared with me, day after day. Pushing me forward in a process of growth.

And the question of the day is:

What are you grateful for today?

I invite you to share your thoughts with me, allowing this post to vibrate at the energy of gratitude!

Much love to You,

May We always shine