Overcoming Challenges: The fine art of Acceptancy

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA“I embrace the imperfections and celebrate them.”             Kesha

Struggles, desires, challenges, wants and needs. Sometimes, through the storms and winds of everyday’s challenges,  it seems there is no time or space to enjoy Life. It feels we are like little hamsters, trying to keep up running on our wheel of bills, responsibilities and duties.

Until last year I was running on this wheel. My thoughts were focused on how to pay my bills, how to have enough money for my basics, where I was going to get waisted on the weekend or planning a holiday in the best place to get waisted.

That thoughts and that lifestyle, even though I enjoyed it, don’t resonate with me any more. I’m now looking for something else, I’m now looking for a deeper meaning behind my actions and outcomes.

So, one sunny day of July 2011, motivated by the insightful and eye-opening Experience Week in the spiritual community of Findhorn in Scotland, the spiritual teachers and motivators I was listening to, I choose to change. I choose to take responsibility of my Life. I choose to identify my purpose and do the best I could do to live with integrity and do my part in the world. I choose to make the first step and allow the abundance I deserved to come into my Life.

From that moment, the moment I took that decision, my Life unfolded in ways I would never expected….

I’ve been given more challenges than before, more deep dark moments, more situations in which I didn’t now how I was going to make it. But it wasn’t all. Alongside with challenges I’ve been given all the help and the support to mature, grow and overcome them. I’ve been meeting loving people who became the friends that never hesitated to help me when I was in need and to celebrate joyful and happy moments. I’ve been given all the opportunities I was looking for in the field I’m working and I’ve been given the wisdom to follow through every tough moment.

…well… Have You ever found Yourself asking the question “Why me?” “Why do I have to through all this crap?”

You bet it!!! And it wasn’t long time ago since the last time. Have You ever experienced these moments where everything seems to go wrong? where health, finances and emotional balance seems to say goodbye, take a flight and go in holiday in the Canary Islands? It was one night, stuck in my bad with a terrible headache, I decided to listen to one of the conference call from the online seminar, Healing with the Masters, hosted by Jennifer McLean, interviewing the spiritual teacher Panache Desai.

It was the first time for me to hear his Truths. His words resonate within me immediately and his message, so clear and straight to the point, like an arrow, brake through my heart.

… and what was his message?

His message was very simple and comforting. I broke it down for You in little steps.

  • STRESS IS OUR CLOSEST FRIEND. IT SHOWS US WHAT CHANGES WE HAVE TO MAKE IN OUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU AND YOUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX.
  • EVERYTHING IS PERFECT AS IT IS. YOU AND THE REALITY YOU ARE EXPERIENCING.
  • EMBRACE EVERY MOMENT, EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS TO YOU.
  • EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS IS THE OPPORTUNITY YOU’VE BEEN WAITING FOR YOUR GROWTH. 

His key message is to EMBRACE AND ACCEPT OURSELVES IN THE WAY WE ARE AND OUR EXPERIENCE AS OUR GREATEST MASTER.

I’ve heard these concepts before, but now I was ready to really listen and learn.

And if You are here, it means You are now ready. If You are here it means that You want something more from Life and that You want to give more.

Well, I’m not saying this is easy to do, and I’m not saying that the pain of some experiences is easy to overcome. And it is fine to experience that pain, it is fine to experience that sorrow, it is fine to experience that frustration. There is nothing wrong with all of that. It is part of our human experience, it is part of our beauty. But we don’t want to stay stuck in this cycle. We want to acknowledge them just as they are: feelings. When we experience this new realm of reality, when we are willing to surrender to our experience, embrace it and learn from it, we are then ready to be thankful to what happened to us and to move on, grown and stronger than before.

….and what happens next?… what happens after I embrace my feelings and my experience?

I cannot tell You what will happen to You, that will be Your reality and part of Your own path. But I can share with You what happened to me. As soon as I stepped in this process, something amazing started to manifest. My body started healing immediately, I received a phone call who sorted out my financial situation and amazing opportunities opened up for the near future. It seems like somebody was just waiting for me to make this step. It seems like somebody listened to my call. I cannot express the feeling of gratitude I have now in my chest. I’m now certain that no matter what, everything is going to be fine, because, no matter what everything is fine in every moment.

Your turn:

If You are now facing a tough period in one area of Your Life, I’d love to share with You these steps that helped Me to detach, embrace, assess and brake through. I hope this will be useful also for You.

  1.  Take a breath. A very long deep breath.
  2. Focus Your attention on Your hearth, feel Your Heart, feel that sacred space, where no worries or problems are allowed, that place where You are an infinite field of possibilities, that place that is the realm of Love.
  3. Now say to Yourself, like talking to a little child, that everything is perfect as it is. That You are perfect as You are. That there is nothing to be worried about. That everything is fine. Ensure Yourself like You were the most important person in the world.
  4. Now ask Yourself the following questions and write down the first thing that comes into your mind. Don’t judge it, even if it seems it has no sense. Remember, there is no thing that is meaningless.
  5. What is in this experience for me? What can I learn?
  6. What is in this experience for Us? What can We learn?
  7. Knowing what I know now, what can i do different next time?
  8. Knowing what I know now, what can I say to myself next time I’m going to live this experience?
  9. And now be thankful to yourself, be thankful to your experience and be thankful to your emotions.
  10. You are now ready to move, stronger than before, wiser than before, and more focused than before. You now know what to do. Don’t wait more. Do it! and enjoy the gift of Life.

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May You always embrace the perfection of Your reality!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

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The TEAD principle of self management.

“What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?” Eleanor Roosvelt

Do You know what is the difference between a confident person and a person who doesn’t even look up? What is the difference between achievers and followers? What is the difference between an happy person and a sad one?

mmmm.. no.. I don’t know… maybe their attitude?

Good guess!! And what is behind the attitude of a person? Behind the attitude of a person lies the way his able to manage his state. Quoting the personal development guru Anthony Robbins “There are no unresourceful people, just unresourceful states”. Have You ever experienced a moment of light bulb? or when You were performing above Your usual standards? I’m sure You did! And this is not because You changed the skin You were in, but because You changed Your internal state, tapping into Your Resourceful Self.

So…. You are telling me that every result I can achieve depends by the State I’m in…

Bunga!!!! I’m a great believer of the TEAD theory. TEAD stands for: Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, Direction. It is an ever ending cycle.

What we think determine the way we feel; our feelings determine our performances; our performances determine our Life.

1. THOUGHTS: 

It has been estimated that we have 70.000 thoughts per day. (I don’t know who decided to count them!! :))  70% of these thoughts are almost the same, like a tape on repeat. Has been shown that, generally, these 70% of thoughts are negative and disempowering. Can You see now how much impact can thoughts have in our Life? How can we live an happy and successful life if what we thing most of the time comes from our worries and problems?  Each of our thoughts has a measurable electromagnetic field and can influence the whole chemistries of our body, blood pressure, hormones and the one of the people around us. Also, our thoughts, when repeated, create strong neurological patterns that creates our habits. Sometimes we are so use to that repeating tape that we are not even aware of it. Being aware of our thoughts is the first step that we can take towards changing the limiting patterns.

2. EMOTIONS:

Every thought we experience, interact with the energetic field of our body, linking to our past experiences. Every thought. as said before, create changes in the chemistry of the body, changing the emotional state we are in. So what are emotions? Emotions can be described as “Energy in Motion”. Emotions are changes in our energetic field and are influenced by the patterns of thoughts and biochemicals released in our body. Everything we think create and generate a different emotions. Some of them can create a positive change in our field, releasing “happy hormones” like serotonin and dopamine, while others can trigger stress hormones like adrenaline and noradrenaline. In conclusion If we think positive thoughts, we are going to trigger positive emotions.

 3. ACTIONS:

Our emotions have the power to change the state we are in. State can be defined as the mental and physical attitude we have in every given situation. In which state can our action be more successful? Easy to guess!! More we are in a joyous and happy state, more resourceful we are. More we stay in a negative or depression state, less power we have. In conclusion we can say that the state we are in determine the performance of our daily actions.

4. LIFE DIRECTION:

“Show me the actions of a man and I’ll tell You his destiny”. Every action (or inaction) is a step towards one direction. Our actions and performances determine our Life direction and ultimately Our Destiny. This is why our life a reflection of our daily actions. Having in mind what is the direction we want our Life to take, we can plan our actions accordingly.

Wow!! All this is uber fascinating!! But How can I change my state?

Ahahah!!! I’m glad You enjoyed it!! And You are really curious!! So don’t miss out my next post “How to trigger a “rock n’ roll star” state”.

Your Turn

  • Now close Your eyes, and take 3 deep breath… That’s good. Think about something negative, experience it, hear it, feel it. What do You notice? What changes happens in Your body?What changes happens in Your body? Your breath? Your posture? Your voice? Your inner voice?
  • Now shake Yourself a bit. Jump or walk around.
  • Close again Your eyes and think about something SEXY or JUCY that You Love. Think About something that makes You really HAPPY! What do You notice?

Did You Like the exercise?

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May Your state be always Happy!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

10 Juicy tips to live a Joyous Life

“Joy is not in things, it is in us.”                                        R. Wagner (1813-1883)

Joy, Joy, Joy. 3 letters with a deep meaning. We live our life running towards these 3 letters. Each of our action is dictated by these 3 letters. We make plans to achieve these 3 letters. We make changes to feel these 3 letters. We Love to achieve these 3 letters.

A question, while writing is popping up in my mind…

What is really Joy?

The definitions You can find in the dictionary could be:

1. the emotion of great delight or happiness caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying; keen pleasure;elation
2. a source or cause of keen pleasure or delight; something or someone greatly valued or appreciated.
3. the expression  or display of glad feeling; festive gaiety.
4. a state of happiness or felicity.
Now, What do these definition have in common?
Guess it…
Yes!!!
Talking about the origin of Joy we can see that Joy is an emotion, a feeling, a state.
Where is the origin of feelings?
You Got it!!
Feelings are inside our body. Mainly we are the creators of feelings.

So… You are telling me that Joy is inside me?

Well Done! Joy, like any other feelings is inside You and You can create it any time You want.

…mmm… Why then people seems to constantly look for it externally?

Great question! I would say that this happens for 2 main reasons. The first is because tapping into the inner, everlasting Joy requires a bit of self-exploration. And often people tend to avoid digging within themselves. Maybe scared about what they might find. The second is because some people don’t really know how to experience Joy and what they can do to live a Joyous Life.

Ok… Well… talking about Joy within and self-exploration sound to me a lot of Woo-Woo stuff. Is there any practical action I can take to start experiencing this state of Joy?

I understand what You mean… I had the same reaction at first. And Yes! at the end of the day Life is all about taking action! The so called Woo-Woo stuff are the actions that give the person the strengths and the mindset to follow through.

So… What can I do?

I’m going now to share with You 10 Juicy tips that can support You in living the Joyous Life You deserve.

1. Start Your day being grateful for what You have.

As soon as You wake up give thanks for all the people You have in Your life, the food, the water, Your possession… Ask Yourself the question: What is important in my life that I need to be grateful for?

2. Eat an Healthy and Balanced diet.

You are what You eat is not just an ancient proverb. Food is information and has the power to turn on and off genes and releasing hormones. Everything You eat effects You on the Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual level.

3. Move Your Body

When moving and during exercise, high levels of serotonin (the happiness hormone) are released, clearing the energetic blockages where negative emotion are stored.

4. Treat Yourself like if You were the most important person on the Earth.

Self Love is a natural Joy booster!! Even if it seems a bit odd, go in front of a mirror and say out loud to Yourself all the nice things You’d like other people share about You. If You don’t have any idea start with: “I Like You”, then gradually moving to the advanced phase:  “I Love You”. Do it for just 2 minutes and notice how You feel.

5. Do a random act of kindness.

Give a smile, help a stranger, donate to a charity… Giving to others without expectations makes us feel good.

6. Take time for Yourself.

Assess where You are, envision Your future, plan the action steps that will bring You there.  Set aside at least 1h weekly to see where Your action are bringing You and where to adjust Your steering wheel.

7. Relax

Set aside daily at least 30 min for Your personal relaxation. Switch off Your mind reading a novel, listening to some soothing musing, taking a bubble bath, or doing anything else You enjoy doing.

8. Make Love.

Making Love with a person You Love and care about ads spice and meaning to Your Life. It is the most powerful act of giving and receiving. And is fun!!!

9. Change perspective on things.

If an event upsets You, think about the meaning You are giving to that event and choose the one that most serves You. For the steps on how to do it read 6 steps to change perspective.

10. Celebrate!!!

Celebrate You achievements! Do something wild, crazy, or relaxing that You enjoy as payoff for Your good work!! Life is about enjoying what You do!!

Your Turn

  1. How would You rate Your state of Joy in a scale from 1 to 10?
  2. What can You do NOW!! to score 1 point higher?
  3. What is that You most enjoy doing in life?
  4. What can You do today to bring more Joy in Your Life?
  5. What useless habits can You replace with one from the above?
  6.  What can You do today to celebrate Your past success if You haven’t done so?

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May Your Life be always Joyful!!

Simone Vincenzi                           ~Your Power to Shine~