The power of things left unsaid

things left unsaidThings left unsaid have the power to destroy what you have created. Express your feelings at any time and don’t be afraid of the consequences. It is anyway better that don’t say anything.

Hello Guys! I wish I am finding you happy and excited about this fantastic day you are manifesting and, if it is a tough day, which it might happen, why not have a look here? The Secret of Emotional Intelligence.

Today’s post is about things left unsaid.

How many things left unsaid are you storing in the cupboard of your mind? Maybe with your colleagues. Maybe with your friends. Maybe with your family. Or maybe with your loved one.

How many emotions to express? How many emotions unexpressed? And how many feelings suppressed?

Things left unsaid can really have a negative impact on the health of the relationships with the people surrounding you. Think about your emotional storage like a pressure cooker. Less you express your emotions, less you express your feelings, more the things left unsaid build up in your guts.

What happen if the pressure in a pressure cooker is not released?

BOOOOOOOM!!!

This exactly what will happen to you if you don’t learn how to express your feelings, or if you are not willing to express your emotions and leave things unsaid.

After this brief introduction, today I’d like to talk about relationships. Yes of course, I am not a relationship expert, but I am a lover… a deep lover, and even if there is no qualification for that I can proudly show my diploma in deep love.

Ok well… I tried to be funny…

The bottom line is that loving relationships are no different than any other relationship you have with the people who you meet along your path. There are strategies and techniques to use to make sure you screw up those relationships.

One of them, and probably the most effective one, is leaving things unsaid.

When you don’t express a thought, a feeling or an emotion and you rather decide to avoid it, where do you think those thoughts, feelings and emotions go?  They surely don’t disappear at all!!

What happens then?

Thoughts, feelings and emotions are energies. Kind of energies that, if not expressed and released stick into your energetic field and build up within and around you. They got stuck into your energetic field creating blockages to the natural flow of your energetic being.

For more information about the consequences that this can have to your body you might want to read my post entitled Healing Your Body.

Can you give me an example?

Of course! Have you ever walked into a room full of people? I am sure you had… Have you ever felt like a bad or a good atmosphere around? This is exactly what I am talking about. At an emotional level we are aware of everything and every emotions stored in the energetic field of the people surrounding us. We can always SENSE how people feels and what people think. This is a skill we have been always having since the day we were born. But we have neglected it along the way somehow. It is something some people are more gifted to or others have developed through time and practice.

And if you are asking yourself…

How is this relating to relationships?

Well, the answer is simpler than you thing.

When you don’t say what you think and leave emotions and feelings unexpressed, they immediately build up into your energetic field. Causing a blockage of energy in your energetic field with all the given consequences. This is not all… The other person, maybe not consciously, is always able to pick up what it is stored in your energetic field and create a memory of that moment, of that feeling, of that emotion that can be triggered in a second time, when something similar happens. Generally, when the emotion gets triggered again, it release all the emotions that were attached to it, causing what we generally call… an overreaction.

And there is no point for me to tell you now what are the consequences. I am sure that you have experienced them… and probably more than once 😉

Can You see now how important is to be honest and express your feelings and emotions?

Why don’t we do it on a regular basis?

Well… this can be topic for another post…

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It is all about Sharing

parrots_sharing“HAPPINESS IS ONLY REAL WHEN SHARED” 
― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild

When the lights of your successes shine on you… When you will be recognised for all you have put in what you do… When the joy of the prize touches you… That very joy, is nothing when the same is shared with somebody meaningful, somebody that can colour your life with the magic of Love. In that very moment, you don’t want to be alone, You don’t want to live that event by yourself.

I believe that every moment of our life, without judging it as sad, challenging, happy or joyful, when shared with somebody meaningful, it absorb another taste, a sweet taste enriched by the sweetness of love.

No matter what is that we go through in Life, when somebody else is part of that moment with the intention coming from a place of Love, something magical happen, and the meaning of the event is enriched 100 times more.

I’d love to share these thoughts with you because this is what I have been experiencing in the last few years of my life.

After moving to London and set up my life, I was so caught up in my duties, achievements, goals and parties that I neglected myself the gift of creating a meaningful, loving relationship.

I ended up celebrating a lot of success, most of them by myself or with people who didn’t mean a lot in my life.

Don’t get me wrong, it is not that I don’t appreciate my own company or I am not able to do, what I call. “INNER CELEBRATION”. But at the same time there is a spice that is missing, there is a flavour that could be enriched.

This spice, this flavour is called SHARING.

I believe that we, as human beings, we are born to share. Whether we do it consciously or not we are constantly sharing our feelings, emotions, thoughts and actions with all other living beings through our consciousness field and affecting what Young called our Superconscious or Collective Mind.

When this process has been made conscious, through our desire of sharing, the concentration of  energy created is so strong that the connection, between the living beings experiencing the event, starts writing gentle notes on the pentagram of that melody.

We feel happier, we feel more meaningful, we feel a greater sense of belonging. Belonging to that person, belonging to humanity, belonging to ourself.

Yes, I said belonging to ourself because I believe that the outer world is a mirror of our inner world, of who we really are inside, what we believe and what we value.

Being so, I also believe that those meaningful people who come to enrich every moment of our life, have the power to help connecting deeper within ourself. To get in touch and let out all the love and the care that resides within us.

This is because those people are so precious. This is because they are like jewels to preserve and care. To preserve and care with no attachments. With the awareness that one day, they will maybe move on to enrich the life of another person with the missing taste.

I am deeply grateful that after so many years I had the chance to experience it yesterday night, at the NCS 2012 Autumn graduation when (I am aware that this is my ego speaking…) I have been awarded with the Stand Out Staff Member prize after my first job as a Youth Coach. In that moment I was surrounded by all the people who made it possible: my mentor Steve, all the young people on the program, the other Youth Coaches and the member of the Future Foundations.

And it wouldn’t be the same if my girlfriend wouldn’t be there, seated at the back of the room, with a silent smile. During the night our sights crossed just a couple of times. But her eyes were saying to me: “Well done Simo, I am here for You.”

Her presence was the most beautiful gift of the night.

The bottom line is, don’t limit yourself and the experiences you are living. Share it with the all the meaningful people around you, people who can enrich your life with their support, care and love.

Thank You Silvia for sharing your Life with me and enrich my days with the sweet flavour of your love.

Your Turn

  • Think about all the meaningful people you have in your life.
  • Now think about all the meaningful people you’d like to have in the happiest moment of your life.
  • Who would you like to share the happiest moment of your life with?
  • Now take the time to tell them how you feel about them and why they are important for you. Don’t take for granted they know you love them.

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May You always share!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

Vulnerability

vulnerability“When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability… To be alive is to be vulnerable.” 
― Madeleine L’Engle

Hello,

I wish I am finding you well and happy!

Today, I am writing the blog from a room of a friend of mine. In front of me, through the foggy window, a white blanket of snow is covering the green grass of the opposite park, enhancing the strong red of the DLR trains.

Today I feel to free write. There won’t be any topic but what I have experienced  this morning, during a call with my coach Illa Khagram from Radian Lotus, which I deeply thank for taking the time, the honesty and the integrity to bringing me back to my centre. This is what I needed.

It happens to me very often that, when things start going in the direction I want, in the direction I expect, and I got recognition for what I do, my dear friend EGO, gets a little pumped up and tend to take a strong control. I don’t really know yet how to spot the moment where my ego kicks in and sits on the driving seat. But I know that he is a very fast driver, with the foot always on the accelerator.

He wants to do it, and he wants to do it quickly. He wants results and he wants results now. He wants to feel rewarded, and he wants to feel rewarded now. He wants appreciation, and he wants to feel appreciated now. He wants to be the best, and he wants to be the best now.

My ego is very proud, I cannot deny that. And he hates the feeling of being left behind. He hates the shame of being the last.

This is very empowering because I am moved from a strong drive to grow, learn, and excel in everything I do. And is also very limiting at the same time. I rarely allow myself the time to fully grow. I rarely allow myself the time to assess the beauty of the NOW. I rarely allow myself to be humble and I rarely allow myself to be vulnerable.

I rarely allow myself to be vulnerable.

Now, while writing, a strong emotion is coming up in a tear. A gentle tear.

Vulnerability, something I often preach, but rarely practice or show.

My ego wants to feel invincible.

My ego wants to feel that he has everything under control.

My ego wants to have an answer for everything.

Like Illa said before: “I see you affected by the COACH SYNDROME!!”

My ego often wear this thick mask of knowledge, wisdom and strength that is very difficult, even for me, to see what my Shining Self is really saying and really wants. And I misinterpret his messages. On the other hand my head is very strong and I am very connected to the thinking patterns of my past, losing focus on my emotions.

Now I am here writing and crying…

It has been a long time since last time I cried…. even for joy.

It’s a beautiful, liberating feelings…. And to all the people who believe that crying means weakness… well try it and you will let me know how you feel!

Or maybe it is me that I subconsciously believe that crying means weakness, that vulnerability means weakness.

Yes!! Now I got the point!!

It is great to have an epiphany while blogging!! I know what to work on now…

I value so much the opportunity that this blog gave me today to express feelings I had stored from such a long time. Allowing me to be vulnerable, allowing me to be Me.

Your Turn 

Spend the next 10 min. being vulnerable and be true with yourself. Talk to Your Ego like you were talking to a friend and write down a letter to your Ego.

Start with: Dear Ego…………

and let your hand flow.

Don’t judge Your thoughts.

I have been introduced to this exercise,  that now I do regularly, from Illa. It always have a great Healing Power.

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May You always be Vulnerable!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

LOVE

love-inspirational-daily“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, a man cannot live without Love.” Max Muller 

Hi,

I wish I am finding you well and in Love.

Today, as you can see by the picture, I am going to talk about Love.

I want to talk about Love in a way I have never done before.

I took out some scratch notes I wrote during my travel in Gran Canaria. 4 days… Just myself and the nature. Sleeping on the beach, under the stars and climbing mountains during the night in order to taste the sweet colours of a gentle sunrise.

While moving and walking, my head started wondering and thinking about Love.

Yes I was in a deep loving and connected state in that moment and I decided to frame my feelings in words written on a blank paper.

This is the translations of 2 ages I wrote about love during the holiday. Maybe my thoughts are changed now… but that was me and I don’t want to change what that Me had thought in that moment. It feels very unusual for me going through these notes, as I haven’t reviewed them for 1 year now.

I leave You enjoy this written monologue entitled.

LOVE

After a long day of walking, witnessing the magnificence of Mother Nature on top of the Roque Nublo, and blessing this experience with all my Love, now I found myself close to Tejeda and, freeing the flow of my thoughts, I found myself to give an ABSOLUTE definition of Love for me. Retracing my mental journey, the monologue has followed these traits.

Starting identifying Love with the act of creation, I established the syllogism LOVE=CREATION. If CREATION=LIFE. So LOVE=LIFE. 

Following Eastern Philosophies and the discoveries from Quantum Physics, in my opinion, what we usually call God, or Energy, can be called also Love, because principle of creation. Likewise I can say that Life is nothing but Love, and just Loving unconditionally I can re-connect with the substrate, letting go of the veil of Maya of duality.

Also, chemically speaking, our body is designed for Love.  Just surrendering to Love, our body release the hormones necessary for Life. 

Assuming that LIFE=LOVE, my question has been: “Why have we restricted a concept such vast and absolute to a feeling, for the most limited to few people (friends, loving relationship,family..) Historically I cannot find an answer to this question.

Then I’d thought to distinguish between Absolute Love and Relative Love.

Relative Love is the Holliwood Love with which we have grown up. A limited feeling, directed mostly to other human beings close to us. It is called Lobby Love. It is an extension of the Absolute Love and it represent one of his Infinite Realities. It is pure idealisation, that takes shape from a predetermined set of emotions, whereby for semantic similarity, it has been called Love. Despite the romantic connotation and the pleasure of the feelings it is limited in time and space, but at the same time necessary to understand the transcendental concept of Absolute Love.

Absolute Love is the perfect and complete realisation of the Relative Love. It is the love of a cell for the body in which it lives, of the mother for a son, of Mother Earth for her inhabitants and of the Universe with his Creatures. It is Creation. Pure Creation. It manifests Itself in millions of ways……….(incomprehensible)…..”

This is what I wrote last year after my 10h walk in Gran Canaria… It might sounds a bit confusing …. And I believe this is the beauty of it. It has not been contaminated, it has been always kept secure.

It reminds me of what I was feeling and how I was  feeling in that moment of my life….

With Love

Simone

 

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Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

10 Health Benefits of Water Fasting

“Fasting is the greatest remedy, the physician within.”Philippus Paracelsus, M.D. (1493-1541; Swiss physician and alchemist. . .considered one of the three Fathers of Western Medicine)

Fasting is an ancient remedy for Physical and Spiritual Healing. The benefits of water fasting have been underlined through history from the VIP’s of physical and spiritual development like Hippocrates, Socrates, Plato, Moses, Jesus, Mohamed, Gandhi etch… All of them used water fasting to support their body in healing illnesses and for their spiritual growth.

mmm… Interesting… What really happens in the body while water fasting?

Our body, usually, uses as primary source of energy a sugar called glucose, most of it coming from the food we eat. The glucose in excess is then stored  in the liver and transformed in a reserve of glycogen. When we fast, the same healing process that happens during our sleep take place. The glycogen is used to recover damaged tissues and, when finished, the body shifts over to ketosis, using fats as main source of energy.  Usually the ketosis process starts after the first 3 days and, after 7 days the body, in order to preserve his protein, the body starts turning  nonessential cellular masses such as fibroid tumors and degenerative tissues, bacteria, viruses, or any other compounds in the body into energy.

…Wow!!!  Our Body is a really smart buddy!!!

…So… I’m dying to know what are the main benefits of water fasting!

OK….OK… calm down…. The benefits of water fasting are countless! Today, with our technologies, we are actually able to measure what are the physical benefits of water fasting. I choose to list the 10 benefits, physical, emotional and spiritual that are more relevant to me and, if You’d like to know more, at the end of the page, You’ll find useful links from the online community.

1. Detoxification

“Detoxification is a normal body process of eliminating or neutralizing toxins through the colon, liver, kidneys, lungs, lymph glands, and skin.” During water fasting all the toxins in our body are expelled, creating inside the body an ideal environment for growth. This is responsible for a healthier skin, teeth and gums.

2. Stronger Immune System

During the water fasting, the energy is diverted away from the digestive system to the centres that deal with our metabolism and our immune system. Restoring their natural function.

3. Feeling of rejuvenation and extended life expectancy

All the damaged tissues and major illnesses are repaired, living the body in the optimal state for growth.

4. Healthier Cardiovascular System

The blood pressure is stabilised and the cholesterol level is decreased.

5. Improved skeletal and muscular systems

Fasting induces significant anti-inflammatory actions on the skeletal and muscular system. Healing from almost all pains, aches, arthritis in muscles and joints.

6. Weight Loss

mmmmm………… I’m wondering why!!! Also it has been proven to be one of the best remedy for obesity. The substances that turn on the genes of obesity are stored in body’s fat. Eliminating excess fats, helps the body get rid of these particles.

7. Increased Will Power and Self Control

For most people not eating for 10h is a big challenge. Fasting improve self control and will power, putting the faster in a place of control over the body reactions and the mind.

8. More Energy

The most expensive activity of the body, in terms of energy expenditure is the digestive process. During the water fasting the same energy is directed towards other activities leaving the body with more energy.

9. Increased Body Sensitivity

During the water fasting all the sensations of the body are increased, creating a deeper sense of awareness of the wonderful creation that is our body.

10. Increased Spiritual Connection

As the faster gets rid of the physical toxins also the spiritual toxins and the emotional wounds flush out. Emotional wounds are stored in the energetic system of the body. Cleansing it trough fasting creates a new space for emotional healing and for positive emotions to come in. It also quiets the mind, creating the emotional and mental environment for a deep spiritual connection.

I want to Thank all the people that shared these valuable informations in their blogs, websites and articles. If You want to know more visit:  http://www.gaianstudies.org/articles4.htm       http://drbenkim.com/fasting.html                     http://www.allaboutfasting.com/benefits-of-fasting.html

The reason why I decided to post the blog about water fasting is because I started a “21 days water fasting challenge” yesterday foundraising for http://www.gracechildrensvillage.org/ A community project based in Uganda. Please support me with Your kind donation http://www.justgiving.com/Simone-Vincenzi.

Your Turn!!

I’d love to hear from You what do You know and think about Fasting.

  • Have You ever thought about doing it?
  • If Yes, what brought you to the topic?
  • What is Your big WHY?
  • What obstacles could You find on the way?

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May You always be Happy.

Simone Vincenzi                                                                     ~Your Power to Shine~

When it all begun (part 2)

Bonjour dear amigos!!

I hope I’m finding You Well and Happy!!

I know I left You very passionate about my story, and what brought me here. For this reason, today, I decided to continue with the second part.

Last chapter finished with the bookings of the 2 days event with the Coaching Academy. And I’ always amazed how a little action, like a simple click can turn the life around. And this is what happened to me in that moment.

As soon as I stepped into the conference room, a feeling of excited energy started raising into my body. Good premises, because the event hadn’t started yet!

Around 10am this life changing event begun. Trainer after trainer, speaker after speaker, information after information, tools after tools and self reflection after self reflection my energy was growing exponencially! More I was learning and discovering, more my Heart was telling me that this was the right path.

Have You ever had the feeling of certainty to be in the right place, in the right time, with the right people? That was exactly what I felt in that moment. Following my emotions I decided to enrol myself in the programs, envisioning, in that moment to become a Successful Life Coach and Youth Coach, empowering the life of people, facilitating the transition between where they are to where they want to be. (if You wish to know more about Coaching, look at the post F.A.Q.s).

I actually didn’t know how I was going to pay it… I had no savings at the time and my financial skills were very poor. So the next big step was to commit to installments that within a year could allow me to pay it all and start my journey. It was the month of December, 2010.

In the meanwhile, still uber excited about my choice, I decided to accelerate the learning process, eating NLP, Coaching and personal developments books website and audio Breakfast Lunch and Dinner. Constantly growing, Physically, Mentally and Spiritually.

And more I was discovering about myself, stretching beyond the limits I decided to put in my life, more I wasn’t recognising myself any more with what I was doing, how I was living, how and with who I was spending my time with. My decision, in that moment, was that was safer to close in myself that to go out, change my habits and the circle of friendships.

It was around March that my challenging relationship with food started. A self destructive habit that have been hiding my light for more that a year and a half.

It started with a light anorexia. I was eating 2 cups of cereals per day and exercising in the gym almost 2 hours every day. Then it developed in bulimia for several months. I used to spend my nights eating bags of sweets and junk food, then throwing out for the guilt and the fear of putting on weight. And the end phase, that lasted since last month, was accepting the habit of binging and overeating during the night. In few days my weight skyrocked and my physiognomy completely changed. While closing my self at the world I was opening my mouth to junk and unhealthy food, that just for a while made me feel better.

I had big void inside me… A void I tried to fill up with food any time I was by myself. A void that I denied and repressed for long time before I have been ready accept it and let it go. A void that now is filled with Love and Gratitude and Vision for a brilliant future ahead.

See You next Time for part 3

May You always use your Power to Shine

Simone