Your Vision, Your Purpose, Your Mission Pt.3

“If you don’t know what is your next step, take a moment, see what scares you the most and take a step towards that direction.”     Simone Vincenzi                                                      

Hi, Here we are again!! Thank You for keep following!

This is post is entitled Your Vision, Your Purpose, Your Mission Pt.3 and it is the last part of a series of 3 posts about Vision, Purpose and Mission.

If you missed the previous posts I invite you to start from the beginning.

>>>>CLICK HERE for Your Vision, Your Purpose, Your Mission Pt.1

>>>>CLICK HERE for Your Vision, Your Purpose, Your Mission Pt.2

We left ourself last time with the question:

What fear is preventing You for taking the next step?

Fear of changeFear of success?Fear of failureFear of uncertainty?

Fear exists in no other place than in your mind. Your mind has been conditioned from the early stages to look for dangers in order to protect you in your everyday life. Every changes, everything that our mind doesn’t perceive as familiar (i.e. safe) brings a certain level of uncertainty. And uncertainty brings a lack of certainty. The certainties of what you have now, of your status quo, of your self-image, of how you perceive yourself.

A change on your outside world is a change in your inside world. As soon as you embrace the fact that in order to live your purpose, in order to be happy, in order to live the life you want you need to change.

As soon as you live your changes with flexibility, an open mind and trusting the universe that what is going to come into your life is for the good of you and of humanity as a whole.

As soon you accept that change and flow is part of your everyday reality, you stop resist the flow, you stop going against the change but you align with the change, you dance with the flow.

The most important shift that must happen into your mindset is to see change as an opportunity to be lived with curiosity, not as a scaring event to be lived with resistance.

What does make you think that what is going to happen is going to be worst that what you have now in the current situation?

Who is telling you that the next step is going to be a step backwards instead of a step forward?

Let me tell you… there is no such a thing as a step backwards. You are constantly growing, constantly moving forward. Day by day. Hour by hour. Minute by minute. Moment by moment.

NOW STAND UP!!!

Stand up for what you value! Stand up for your life. Stand up for what you want and what you deserve.

Get up from the couch of your comfort zone.

Build momentum and keep moving.

Don’t you know the direction yet?

I’ll give you a tip. Find what scares you the most and move towards that direction. Let me repeat it. Find what scares you the most and move, small steps, towards that direction. Build momentum with little action steps and celebrate all your successes along the way. Build momentum so you have the energy to break through that fear when it will happen.

I am sure you can do it. The fact that you are reading this article now, is telling me you are committed to your success and to find alignment with who you really are.

I wish You a Purposeful and Successful Life!

For any question or support contact me now.

I am here to support and help you growing along your journey.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always live Your Purpose!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

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You are affected by your patterns pt. 2 The Pattern Loop

thinking patterns“Your Ego, what you and other people perceive about yourself, is a series thinking patterns… Every pattern you think is the trigger of another thinking pattern and so on.” Simone Vincenzi

Ciao Belli!!! This is the follow up of You are affected by Your Patterns, a successful post I wrote a couple of weeks ago. If haven’t read it yet I invite you to read it before moving on! Enjoy your readings and please like and share it with the world!!!! ahaha!!

Moving on…

I am sure you can agree with me you have your own pattern for every given situation isn’t it?

NO??? Think about your life. How many times you can say: “It always happen to me??” Or how many times you do the same things over and over again?

And this is perfectly normal, this is how we function. Our breath is regulated by a pattern, our heartbeat, each single movement we do or word we speak. Even every single thing we feel is regulated by a pattern.

Also, as you can clearly see, every pattern, automatically, is the beginning of the following pattern. Creating a cycle.

I call this cycle: Pattern Loop.

What do I mean about Pattern Loop?

A Pattern Loop is a cycle of patterns where each pattern is the trigger of the following pattern.

Let me repeat it again for you:

A pattern loop is a cycle of patterns where each pattern is the trigger of the following pattern.

Let me give you an example.

Gigi started his day waking up. 1st pattern, that triggered the “going to toilet” 2nd pattern, who triggered the “washing up” pattern and so on…

But now I want you to imagine ..

If a new pattern is introduced in that routine what will then happen?

Let me give you an example. Let’s say the new pattern of not waking up and stay in bad clicks in. What pattern in your opinion will be triggered next? Gigi, obviously, will not follow the series of patterns it was used to follow.

Does it make sense?

Great!

How is Gigi’s day linked with how our mind works?

Our mind works in the same way. We have a series of thoughts that, repeated over and over again, become patterns. Those patterns are, what NLP calls, our Beliefs. The power of those patterns, or beliefs is that they affect the pattern feelings.

What does it mean? You know, you are thinking every moment, even if you are not aware of it. Your blood pressure, your heartbeat, your digestion is all controlled by thoughts. The only matter is that you are not aware of it. So think about it closely. If a thought has the capability to control what makes us alive on this planet…. What can the impact of a thought be in our life?

On the next post we are going to dig down into the rabbit hole of our patterns and since then…

Enjoy Your Life!!!

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You create your own patterns!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

You are affected by Your Patterns.

thinking patterns“The ultimate truth, for me,  is that the World as we perceive it is a series of energetic patterns that keep unfolding into the reality of the present”

-Simone Vincenzi

Hi folks!! It has been a while since last time isn’t it? I wish I am finding you well and happy and life is unfolding in the most playful way for you.

Today’s post is about patterns? Patterns seems to be everywhere, surrounding us and… within us. What are what we call patterns? What are our thinking patterns and haw can we brake the cycle of our emotional patterns?

I was asking myself all these question as this is a topic that sparkled into my heart since ever I heard about it…

I wish you will enjoy the patterns of this post as I enjoyed writing about it.

Patterns:

From different definitions we can assume that a general definition of pattern could be : “A repeating model of structures”, could these structures manifest in our inner reality, such as behavioural pattern, or externally, such as artistic patterns.

I assume we all can agree that, in some way or another our life, internally and externally, is ruled by patterns, behaviours or models that we follow on a daily basis to go through our journey.

Let me give you an example. What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning? What is the second and the third and so on… I believe you have a structure or a daily routine you follow.

Let’s Imagine the life of Mr. Gigi. He is a young guy working as a waiter in an Italian restaurant in Barbican. Now let’s have a close look about what he does in the morning.

Are you ready? Well first of all is better to say hello to Gigi and to ask his permission to observe him for the next 5 min. Yeah, we are not going too close…. We won’t go into red hot zones of the day or moment of extreme privacy…

Yeah, is a cool guy and he doesn’t mind! Also he got paid for this… so…

Gigi wakes up at 7 am every morning, as soon as he gets up, after a stretch, he walk slowly to the toilet to wash himself up and reconnect with the outside world. After, he moves to the luminous kitchen, where he drink a big glass of water before starting his daily meditation. He moves back to his room, where we are going to live him in silence for the next 30 min.

E voilá! 30 min after he is ready for other 30 min of yoga and stretching, before going to have a juicy breakfast with a big piece of fresh fruit and some almond milk.

After breakfast is now time for a quick shower and dressing up, ready for the morning shift.

And this is where we are going to leave Gigi wishing him a fantastic and happy day.

What did you see there? What was Gigi doing? Why, every morning does he do the same things?

Can you see any pattern in his behaviour?

Well, as you might have noticed we have described the pattern of a typical morning of Gigi. The whole morning could be considered a pattern. But there is more. The pattern: Morning is a sum of different patterns. the pattern wake up, the pattern washing up, the pattern meditation etch…

And any of these patterns is a sum of other patterns, the pattern of stretching, moving, breathing, drinking etch…

Can you see where I am going?

I am sure you are!

Our life is a series of patterns, behaviours, actions and thoughts. We are so used to those patterns that they seems normal for us and they constitute our habits.

Our habits are not more than a series of patterns we have been repeating constantly over and over again, mastering that behaviour.

Following up in the next post you will understand how patterns integrated in your mind can rule your life without you knowing how.

Keep following us!!

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May You live in awareness!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

How to elicit core values.

core values“Everybody talks about values. When we talk about market values, added values, business values, people values we are referring to the inner force driving everything towards the ultimate destination”.          – Simone Vincenzi

Hello dear souls! I hope I am finding you well and happy with this post.

If you are now reading this post, it means you are looking for something deeper that what you just perceive. It means that you are looking for the reason why, the inner force that drives you towards the choices you make on a daily basis.

If you haven’t read yet the first post I have written about Values, and you are asking yourself the question What are my Core Values?, I invite you to read now also What do You VALUE the most?.

Neuro Linguistic Programming call those inner forces Core Values. This is what are our human values. An inner force that drive us towards every decision we make, each moment of our life. It is a big statement, I know! But what if this is actually true? What if we really have some moral values that are, ultimately, shaping our destiny and what we get from life? What if there is an energy that, starting from our subconscious mind direct us, like rails, on the destination we are going to achieve?

Now that we have understood how much our values are determining our whole life, the question that might pop into your head now could be:

What can I do to elicit my values?

If You are asking yourself this question you are going the find the answer in the following paragraphs.

As you understood perfectly, eliciting our values is the most important thing we can do to check if what we are doing, the actions we take and the decision we make, are in alignment with who we really are and what is subconsciously driving us.

When You are aware of what your core values are you will be able to make the right choice in every given situation,without stepping in any self-sabotaging behaviour, which 90% of the time, comes from an incongruity between our beliefs, actions and our inner values.

Can You see now how important is to be aware of your Core Values?

Now, following, you find a process that will support you during the elicitation of Your Core Values. Invite you to keep asking those questions for, at least, 5 min and dig deeper every time. Sometimes our Operational Values got hidden from our Idealistic Values.

If you want to know what is the difference between our Operational Values and our Idealistic Values you might want to read                                                            What do You VALUE the most?

Enjoy the Process and have fun while doing it. There is no right or wrong answer, just your perfect and whole being.

I invite you also to share your thought at the bottom of the page after the exercise. How did you found it?

Your turn

Now chose an area of your Life. Like Career, Fun, Family, Friends, Leisure, Health, Love, Relationships…. Pick up the area that is the most important for you right now and ask yourself the following questions.  I invite you also to write down the answers so you can keep track of your thoughts.

  1. What is most important to you in the chosen area?
  2. What else?
  3. Keep asking those questions at least for 5 min and write down the first thing that is coming up into your mind, even if it is the same of the previous thought.
  4. Then look at the way you make decision in the chosen area. Pick up a couple of times when you had to make important decisions in those areas.
  5. What Value was that decision serving? Was it adventure. security, uncertainty, love, contribution, growth, appreciation…?
  6. Now pick up another example and ask the same question.
  7. Now think about what pushes your button in the chosen area, what is that really moves you to take action?
  8. And now find the patterns. Assessing your decisions, actions, thoughts and feelings, What is the value that has been served the most.

In this post you have learnt how your core values are affecting your reality and one of the most effective way to elicit them. Now that you have this awareness I am confident you are going to assess accurately what decision to make in alignment with what is driving you.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You live according to your values!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

What do You VALUE the most?

Values-cartoon“Our Values and Beliefs are the driving force of our life.” Tony Robbins

Hi, I wish I am finding you well and full of energy!! Following a meaningful conversation, I had yesterday with a dear friend of mine from Italy, about what moves people’s behaviours and actions I realised I didn’t post, so far, anything about Values. So I take the chance to explore deeper the subject with you with this blog post. 

I believe firmly now that our Values and our Beliefs determine the attitude we have towards life and therefore what we gain in Life.

So, What are our Values?

Our Values are the labels, the emotional state that we value the most in every area of our life. We have different emotional states, that we are constantly looking to meet or to avoid. We have made these “choices” in the early days of our growth, borrowing them from our parents, society and all that had an influence in our life.

If I ask you:

 “What is most important to you in Life?”

Everybody is going to come up with a different answer. This answer is one of the Values that are ruling his life.

 Values are single words that express a defined emotional state that we want to reach or avoid.

We have different Values for every area of our life. We have values for finances, relationships, health, leisure, etch…. and they are subconsciously driving us, conditioning our life and ultimately control our destiny. Moreover, our values, being subconscious patterns, play a mayor role on what we attract in our life.

 You definitely agree with me that:

 “What we attract in our Life is a mirror of our inner values and beliefs.”

Having awareness of the values that rule our life, is the first step on taking control of our life and understand why we make certain decision and why we act and behave the way we do.

 Awareness is always the key.

 We can divide our values into 2 different categories.

 

  1. Moving Towards Values
  2. Moving Away From Values

 Each category is divided into 4 different sub-groups:

 

  1. Mean Values
  2. End Values
  3. Idealistic Values
  4. Operational Values

 

MOVING TOWARDS AND MOVING AWAY FROM VALUES

 As previously said, Values are single words that express a defined emotional state.

 You agree with me that in life there are some emotional state that we want to reach and emotional state that we want to avoid. Isn’t it?

 

  1. Moving Towards Values: Are the Values, the emotional state that we want to feel, These pleasurable states that we value most are the ‘Moving-Toward’ values because these are the emotional states that we will do the most to attain. Some of these values are:

Love, Success, Freedom, Intimacy, Security, Adventure, Power, Passion, Comfort, Health.

 

  1. Moving Away From Values: Are the Values, the emotional states we do the most to avoid.

Rejection, Anger, Frustration, Loneliness, Depression, Failure, Humiliation, Guilt.

 We always have a hierarchy of Values in each area of our life and we always have, in each category, one that is most important for us.

 The awareness of our Values is the first step of living the life out of integrity and purpose you are committed to live.

 One interesting thing, that you might not know, is that conflicting values are the source of our self-sabotage. We might value success as Moving Forward Value, and we might fear rejection as Moving Away From Value. How can a person be successful if afraid of facing rejection? As soon as that person will feel rejected it will instantly sabotage himself and his success.

 Can You see how important are our Values?

 Now I just want to give You a brief introduction about the other sub-groups of your Values System.

 

  1. Mean Values: Family, Friends, Work, Life… These are just the surface, they are not the feelings we are looking for.
  2. End Values: These are the feelings. This is what we are looking for. They answer the questions: “What is most important to me in……?”, “How does……….makes me feel?”
  3. Idealistic Values: Are the values that we want to achieve in the future, or that are ideal for us, but not necessarily the ones that are operating now.
  4. Operational Values: The Moving Towards Values and Moving Away From Values that are operating at the moment.

What are Your values?

What is controlling the direction of your life right now?

Your Turn

I invite you now to consciously make the effort to explore your values and to make it a priority. You will understand so much about you and you’ll be able to make, consciously, the best choice in alignment with who you truly are.

In the next post I will share with you the most effective exercises to elicit your core values in every area of your life.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always follow your passion!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

Vulnerability

vulnerability“When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability… To be alive is to be vulnerable.” 
― Madeleine L’Engle

Hello,

I wish I am finding you well and happy!

Today, I am writing the blog from a room of a friend of mine. In front of me, through the foggy window, a white blanket of snow is covering the green grass of the opposite park, enhancing the strong red of the DLR trains.

Today I feel to free write. There won’t be any topic but what I have experienced  this morning, during a call with my coach Illa Khagram from Radian Lotus, which I deeply thank for taking the time, the honesty and the integrity to bringing me back to my centre. This is what I needed.

It happens to me very often that, when things start going in the direction I want, in the direction I expect, and I got recognition for what I do, my dear friend EGO, gets a little pumped up and tend to take a strong control. I don’t really know yet how to spot the moment where my ego kicks in and sits on the driving seat. But I know that he is a very fast driver, with the foot always on the accelerator.

He wants to do it, and he wants to do it quickly. He wants results and he wants results now. He wants to feel rewarded, and he wants to feel rewarded now. He wants appreciation, and he wants to feel appreciated now. He wants to be the best, and he wants to be the best now.

My ego is very proud, I cannot deny that. And he hates the feeling of being left behind. He hates the shame of being the last.

This is very empowering because I am moved from a strong drive to grow, learn, and excel in everything I do. And is also very limiting at the same time. I rarely allow myself the time to fully grow. I rarely allow myself the time to assess the beauty of the NOW. I rarely allow myself to be humble and I rarely allow myself to be vulnerable.

I rarely allow myself to be vulnerable.

Now, while writing, a strong emotion is coming up in a tear. A gentle tear.

Vulnerability, something I often preach, but rarely practice or show.

My ego wants to feel invincible.

My ego wants to feel that he has everything under control.

My ego wants to have an answer for everything.

Like Illa said before: “I see you affected by the COACH SYNDROME!!”

My ego often wear this thick mask of knowledge, wisdom and strength that is very difficult, even for me, to see what my Shining Self is really saying and really wants. And I misinterpret his messages. On the other hand my head is very strong and I am very connected to the thinking patterns of my past, losing focus on my emotions.

Now I am here writing and crying…

It has been a long time since last time I cried…. even for joy.

It’s a beautiful, liberating feelings…. And to all the people who believe that crying means weakness… well try it and you will let me know how you feel!

Or maybe it is me that I subconsciously believe that crying means weakness, that vulnerability means weakness.

Yes!! Now I got the point!!

It is great to have an epiphany while blogging!! I know what to work on now…

I value so much the opportunity that this blog gave me today to express feelings I had stored from such a long time. Allowing me to be vulnerable, allowing me to be Me.

Your Turn 

Spend the next 10 min. being vulnerable and be true with yourself. Talk to Your Ego like you were talking to a friend and write down a letter to your Ego.

Start with: Dear Ego…………

and let your hand flow.

Don’t judge Your thoughts.

I have been introduced to this exercise,  that now I do regularly, from Illa. It always have a great Healing Power.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always be Vulnerable!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~