Confused about what to do after college?

Confused about what to do after college?

If You don’t know what to do next,

If you don’t know what way is YOUR way,

If You want to grab the steering wheel of your destiny.

Your Power to Shine is here for you!

With Love

Simone

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The power of things left unsaid

things left unsaidThings left unsaid have the power to destroy what you have created. Express your feelings at any time and don’t be afraid of the consequences. It is anyway better that don’t say anything.

Hello Guys! I wish I am finding you happy and excited about this fantastic day you are manifesting and, if it is a tough day, which it might happen, why not have a look here? The Secret of Emotional Intelligence.

Today’s post is about things left unsaid.

How many things left unsaid are you storing in the cupboard of your mind? Maybe with your colleagues. Maybe with your friends. Maybe with your family. Or maybe with your loved one.

How many emotions to express? How many emotions unexpressed? And how many feelings suppressed?

Things left unsaid can really have a negative impact on the health of the relationships with the people surrounding you. Think about your emotional storage like a pressure cooker. Less you express your emotions, less you express your feelings, more the things left unsaid build up in your guts.

What happen if the pressure in a pressure cooker is not released?

BOOOOOOOM!!!

This exactly what will happen to you if you don’t learn how to express your feelings, or if you are not willing to express your emotions and leave things unsaid.

After this brief introduction, today I’d like to talk about relationships. Yes of course, I am not a relationship expert, but I am a lover… a deep lover, and even if there is no qualification for that I can proudly show my diploma in deep love.

Ok well… I tried to be funny…

The bottom line is that loving relationships are no different than any other relationship you have with the people who you meet along your path. There are strategies and techniques to use to make sure you screw up those relationships.

One of them, and probably the most effective one, is leaving things unsaid.

When you don’t express a thought, a feeling or an emotion and you rather decide to avoid it, where do you think those thoughts, feelings and emotions go?  They surely don’t disappear at all!!

What happens then?

Thoughts, feelings and emotions are energies. Kind of energies that, if not expressed and released stick into your energetic field and build up within and around you. They got stuck into your energetic field creating blockages to the natural flow of your energetic being.

For more information about the consequences that this can have to your body you might want to read my post entitled Healing Your Body.

Can you give me an example?

Of course! Have you ever walked into a room full of people? I am sure you had… Have you ever felt like a bad or a good atmosphere around? This is exactly what I am talking about. At an emotional level we are aware of everything and every emotions stored in the energetic field of the people surrounding us. We can always SENSE how people feels and what people think. This is a skill we have been always having since the day we were born. But we have neglected it along the way somehow. It is something some people are more gifted to or others have developed through time and practice.

And if you are asking yourself…

How is this relating to relationships?

Well, the answer is simpler than you thing.

When you don’t say what you think and leave emotions and feelings unexpressed, they immediately build up into your energetic field. Causing a blockage of energy in your energetic field with all the given consequences. This is not all… The other person, maybe not consciously, is always able to pick up what it is stored in your energetic field and create a memory of that moment, of that feeling, of that emotion that can be triggered in a second time, when something similar happens. Generally, when the emotion gets triggered again, it release all the emotions that were attached to it, causing what we generally call… an overreaction.

And there is no point for me to tell you now what are the consequences. I am sure that you have experienced them… and probably more than once 😉

Can You see now how important is to be honest and express your feelings and emotions?

Why don’t we do it on a regular basis?

Well… this can be topic for another post…

KEEP FOLLOWING US!!

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You live in honesty!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

How to elicit core values.

core values“Everybody talks about values. When we talk about market values, added values, business values, people values we are referring to the inner force driving everything towards the ultimate destination”.          – Simone Vincenzi

Hello dear souls! I hope I am finding you well and happy with this post.

If you are now reading this post, it means you are looking for something deeper that what you just perceive. It means that you are looking for the reason why, the inner force that drives you towards the choices you make on a daily basis.

If you haven’t read yet the first post I have written about Values, and you are asking yourself the question What are my Core Values?, I invite you to read now also What do You VALUE the most?.

Neuro Linguistic Programming call those inner forces Core Values. This is what are our human values. An inner force that drive us towards every decision we make, each moment of our life. It is a big statement, I know! But what if this is actually true? What if we really have some moral values that are, ultimately, shaping our destiny and what we get from life? What if there is an energy that, starting from our subconscious mind direct us, like rails, on the destination we are going to achieve?

Now that we have understood how much our values are determining our whole life, the question that might pop into your head now could be:

What can I do to elicit my values?

If You are asking yourself this question you are going the find the answer in the following paragraphs.

As you understood perfectly, eliciting our values is the most important thing we can do to check if what we are doing, the actions we take and the decision we make, are in alignment with who we really are and what is subconsciously driving us.

When You are aware of what your core values are you will be able to make the right choice in every given situation,without stepping in any self-sabotaging behaviour, which 90% of the time, comes from an incongruity between our beliefs, actions and our inner values.

Can You see now how important is to be aware of your Core Values?

Now, following, you find a process that will support you during the elicitation of Your Core Values. Invite you to keep asking those questions for, at least, 5 min and dig deeper every time. Sometimes our Operational Values got hidden from our Idealistic Values.

If you want to know what is the difference between our Operational Values and our Idealistic Values you might want to read                                                            What do You VALUE the most?

Enjoy the Process and have fun while doing it. There is no right or wrong answer, just your perfect and whole being.

I invite you also to share your thought at the bottom of the page after the exercise. How did you found it?

Your turn

Now chose an area of your Life. Like Career, Fun, Family, Friends, Leisure, Health, Love, Relationships…. Pick up the area that is the most important for you right now and ask yourself the following questions.  I invite you also to write down the answers so you can keep track of your thoughts.

  1. What is most important to you in the chosen area?
  2. What else?
  3. Keep asking those questions at least for 5 min and write down the first thing that is coming up into your mind, even if it is the same of the previous thought.
  4. Then look at the way you make decision in the chosen area. Pick up a couple of times when you had to make important decisions in those areas.
  5. What Value was that decision serving? Was it adventure. security, uncertainty, love, contribution, growth, appreciation…?
  6. Now pick up another example and ask the same question.
  7. Now think about what pushes your button in the chosen area, what is that really moves you to take action?
  8. And now find the patterns. Assessing your decisions, actions, thoughts and feelings, What is the value that has been served the most.

In this post you have learnt how your core values are affecting your reality and one of the most effective way to elicit them. Now that you have this awareness I am confident you are going to assess accurately what decision to make in alignment with what is driving you.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You live according to your values!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

The Secrete of Emotional Intelligence. Pt.2 How to release anxiety

emotional freedomEmotions are energies flowing within your body. Know how to manage your internal energy. Know how to manage every emotion.                      Simone Vincenzi.

Hello Folks!! Now I am back!

I do apologise if I keep posting less and less since the day I started this project, but now I am facing a period of changes and I had to make room for something else to come up. But I promise I’ll keep posting at least once a week.

Please don’t be upset with me… At the end of the day.. I am a good guy!! hehe

After this little digression is time for me to reveal the Emotional Release Technique I promised you at the end of the last post The Secret of Emotional Intelligence.

If you didn’t have the chance to read it I warmly invite you to click on the link above for a better understanding of Emotional Intelligence.

After all you know about emotions, thoughts, beliefs and patterns, a question could now pop in into your mind.

How can I release negative emotions?

First of all I want you to understand that there are no thing such as negative emotions. Emotions are flowing energies. How can an energy be good or bad? Every emotion is part of the perfection of our human experience and, like everything, is worth of our appreciation and love.

If you thinking…

What about all the emotions that is difficult to deal with?

You are right. There are some emotions that create in the body pleasant or unpleasant feelings. Because they have the power to trigger and release different chemicals.

Chemicals like dopamine and serotonin make us feel really good and on a high! That’s why they are called from the scientific world “Feel Good” chemicals. 

Chemicals like adrenaline, noradrenaline and cortisol make us feel really bad, triggering the fight or flight response in our bodies and moving the body from a state of omeostasis to a place of internal chaos. We can call them “Feel Bad” chemicals.

This means that changing the energy of emotions I can change the chemicals released in my body?

Yes baby!! You got the point! If you consciously change the energy of your emotions you are consciously changing the hormones released inside your body.

This is why emotions like Disappointment, Anger, Fear, Anxiety make us feel so bad!

Yep my dear friend!

So, how can I release Anxiety?

If you want to know how to release anxiety there are different emotional release techniques you can use, some of them very easy and other more complex or uncommon.

I found a very effective that I am using more often than others and I practice also with my clients almost every coaching session.

Your Turn

If You want to know How to release Emotional Stress, Emotional Pain, understand your Emotional Feelings, reaching a sudden space of mindfulness and peacefulness you can apply the following easy steps.

  1. Accept and Welcome the feeling. Whatever it is. The best and mostit  direct way is to focus where the feeling is manifesting and saying with loving and appreciating voice (could also be inner voice): You are Welcome in my body. Thank You for being here.
  2. Keep focusing on the feeling and feel it as if alive in your body. Assess if is still or moving, the shape, the colour, the intensity. Observe from a detached perspective.
  3. Keep welcoming the feeling in your body and ask the the feeling what is the message that is bringing out. What does this feeling want to tell you?
  4. Now keep silent, still focus on the feeling and wait for an answer.
  5. Thank the feeling for the message and take action on the tips you have received from your Shining Self.

Now keep doing it every day and it will become natural for you.

How would your life be if you were able to manage all the disappointments, fears, anxieties that are manifesting inside your body?

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You appreciate and accept your emotions!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

This is an inspiring blog from my dear friend Shirley.
Who doesn’t feel this way from time to time?
With Love

Multi-tasking Makes You Last on the List.

You’ve probably heard it before that women are supposedly better than men at multitasking. In other words we try to complete as many tasks as possible in a limited amount of time.

If you’re anything like me then, you’ll have a mountain of things to accomplish before the days out.

On my list today is to arrange for the car to have its MOT.   I remembered one day in the week, then forgot, it expires tomorrow. Oh no, I’ve been meaning to pay the house insurance the last couple of days. Must call them before they close. Dam no money on my debit card need to transfer some money on-line.

Where am I on the list? Ok, have I read my emails today? Alright, just a quick look. Oh no, I didn’t reply to the builder to get a quote for the new kitchen. Good done. Must…

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The secret of emotional intelligence

emotional intelligenceLife is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.  – Lao Tzu

Halo halo!! Great to connect with you again! I wish I am finding you well, happy and healthy!

As you can see from the title, today’s post is about Emotional Intelligence and the Secret of  Your Emotional Intelligence.

First of all…

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence, as the name says is the intelligence of an emotion, where Intelligence is defined as the capacity for learning, reasoning, understanding, grasping truths, relationships,facts, meanings manifesting a high mental capacity. Emotional, of the emotions. Where Emotions are defined as the flow of energy that, moving through the body, generates every feeling.

Do you mean emotions are clever?

Yes! More than you think! Studying how different emotions interact and move into the body we understood that they, like any other form of energy, have a life and respond to our thoughts, actions and intentions.

See your emotions as a friend that gives you an answer for every question you make. Your questions are your thoughts, conscious and subconscious. We are constantly thinking and constantly asking questions that are answered by God, The Divine, The Universe, The Quantum Field (however you want to name it) with an emotion. Emotions, as Gregg Braden says, are the language in which we communicate with God and vice versa.

Using the personification of an emotion we can easily see that if we treat a friend with love, respect, care, appreciation and gratitude, we are going to develop a long lasting friendship.

If we, instead, neglect our friend, forget about him, don’t take care about him and escape from him, this friend is going to be very angry and react to us in an aggressive manner.

You are telling me that our emotions behave like living beings?

You got it!! Our emotions, if nurtured, cared and accepted are going to take care of us in return. If not, they are going to be very upset and to raise their voice because they want to be heard.

Let me ask you a question…

Do you prefer a friend who try to change you and want you to be somebody else, or a friend that accept and love you as you are, because who are you?

If your answer is the first… well, is better you assess who is surrounding you…                      If your answer is the second you can perfectly understand how an emotion can feel when not accepted. If you, on the other hand, accept the emotion fully and appreciate it as it is, you will experience a major shift in that emotion, who will express your gratitude towards you.

 Are you saying that if I express my gratitude and appreciation towards an emotion, no matter what the emotion is, I will feel a shift in the emotion?

Yes! This is how Emotional Intelligence work! Emotions, as every other energy, act like a mirror. They will reflect you back what you are sending out. In other terms I am talking about the Laws of Attraction. What you send out, you are going to get back.

This is why is so important to accept and nurture you emotions constantly. More Love, Appreciation, Gratitude, Acceptance you send out, more Love, Appreciation, Gratitude, Acceptance you are going to receive from your inner world.

This is just a little slice of the fascinating world of emotions.

If You want to know the most effective technique to Accept Your Emotions keep following us!! I am going to share a juicy technique I use daily that made major shifts in my life and in the life of million of people around the world.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

Please Like this post if you found value here and share your awesome thoughts in the comments below.

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May You appreciate and accept your emotions!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

Vulnerability

vulnerability“When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability… To be alive is to be vulnerable.” 
― Madeleine L’Engle

Hello,

I wish I am finding you well and happy!

Today, I am writing the blog from a room of a friend of mine. In front of me, through the foggy window, a white blanket of snow is covering the green grass of the opposite park, enhancing the strong red of the DLR trains.

Today I feel to free write. There won’t be any topic but what I have experienced  this morning, during a call with my coach Illa Khagram from Radian Lotus, which I deeply thank for taking the time, the honesty and the integrity to bringing me back to my centre. This is what I needed.

It happens to me very often that, when things start going in the direction I want, in the direction I expect, and I got recognition for what I do, my dear friend EGO, gets a little pumped up and tend to take a strong control. I don’t really know yet how to spot the moment where my ego kicks in and sits on the driving seat. But I know that he is a very fast driver, with the foot always on the accelerator.

He wants to do it, and he wants to do it quickly. He wants results and he wants results now. He wants to feel rewarded, and he wants to feel rewarded now. He wants appreciation, and he wants to feel appreciated now. He wants to be the best, and he wants to be the best now.

My ego is very proud, I cannot deny that. And he hates the feeling of being left behind. He hates the shame of being the last.

This is very empowering because I am moved from a strong drive to grow, learn, and excel in everything I do. And is also very limiting at the same time. I rarely allow myself the time to fully grow. I rarely allow myself the time to assess the beauty of the NOW. I rarely allow myself to be humble and I rarely allow myself to be vulnerable.

I rarely allow myself to be vulnerable.

Now, while writing, a strong emotion is coming up in a tear. A gentle tear.

Vulnerability, something I often preach, but rarely practice or show.

My ego wants to feel invincible.

My ego wants to feel that he has everything under control.

My ego wants to have an answer for everything.

Like Illa said before: “I see you affected by the COACH SYNDROME!!”

My ego often wear this thick mask of knowledge, wisdom and strength that is very difficult, even for me, to see what my Shining Self is really saying and really wants. And I misinterpret his messages. On the other hand my head is very strong and I am very connected to the thinking patterns of my past, losing focus on my emotions.

Now I am here writing and crying…

It has been a long time since last time I cried…. even for joy.

It’s a beautiful, liberating feelings…. And to all the people who believe that crying means weakness… well try it and you will let me know how you feel!

Or maybe it is me that I subconsciously believe that crying means weakness, that vulnerability means weakness.

Yes!! Now I got the point!!

It is great to have an epiphany while blogging!! I know what to work on now…

I value so much the opportunity that this blog gave me today to express feelings I had stored from such a long time. Allowing me to be vulnerable, allowing me to be Me.

Your Turn 

Spend the next 10 min. being vulnerable and be true with yourself. Talk to Your Ego like you were talking to a friend and write down a letter to your Ego.

Start with: Dear Ego…………

and let your hand flow.

Don’t judge Your thoughts.

I have been introduced to this exercise,  that now I do regularly, from Illa. It always have a great Healing Power.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always be Vulnerable!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~