You are affected by your patterns pt. 2 The Pattern Loop

thinking patterns“Your Ego, what you and other people perceive about yourself, is a series thinking patterns… Every pattern you think is the trigger of another thinking pattern and so on.” Simone Vincenzi

Ciao Belli!!! This is the follow up of You are affected by Your Patterns, a successful post I wrote a couple of weeks ago. If haven’t read it yet I invite you to read it before moving on! Enjoy your readings and please like and share it with the world!!!! ahaha!!

Moving on…

I am sure you can agree with me you have your own pattern for every given situation isn’t it?

NO??? Think about your life. How many times you can say: “It always happen to me??” Or how many times you do the same things over and over again?

And this is perfectly normal, this is how we function. Our breath is regulated by a pattern, our heartbeat, each single movement we do or word we speak. Even every single thing we feel is regulated by a pattern.

Also, as you can clearly see, every pattern, automatically, is the beginning of the following pattern. Creating a cycle.

I call this cycle: Pattern Loop.

What do I mean about Pattern Loop?

A Pattern Loop is a cycle of patterns where each pattern is the trigger of the following pattern.

Let me repeat it again for you:

A pattern loop is a cycle of patterns where each pattern is the trigger of the following pattern.

Let me give you an example.

Gigi started his day waking up. 1st pattern, that triggered the “going to toilet” 2nd pattern, who triggered the “washing up” pattern and so on…

But now I want you to imagine ..

If a new pattern is introduced in that routine what will then happen?

Let me give you an example. Let’s say the new pattern of not waking up and stay in bad clicks in. What pattern in your opinion will be triggered next? Gigi, obviously, will not follow the series of patterns it was used to follow.

Does it make sense?

Great!

How is Gigi’s day linked with how our mind works?

Our mind works in the same way. We have a series of thoughts that, repeated over and over again, become patterns. Those patterns are, what NLP calls, our Beliefs. The power of those patterns, or beliefs is that they affect the pattern feelings.

What does it mean? You know, you are thinking every moment, even if you are not aware of it. Your blood pressure, your heartbeat, your digestion is all controlled by thoughts. The only matter is that you are not aware of it. So think about it closely. If a thought has the capability to control what makes us alive on this planet…. What can the impact of a thought be in our life?

On the next post we are going to dig down into the rabbit hole of our patterns and since then…

Enjoy Your Life!!!

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May You create your own patterns!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

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You are affected by Your Patterns.

thinking patterns“The ultimate truth, for me,  is that the World as we perceive it is a series of energetic patterns that keep unfolding into the reality of the present”

-Simone Vincenzi

Hi folks!! It has been a while since last time isn’t it? I wish I am finding you well and happy and life is unfolding in the most playful way for you.

Today’s post is about patterns? Patterns seems to be everywhere, surrounding us and… within us. What are what we call patterns? What are our thinking patterns and haw can we brake the cycle of our emotional patterns?

I was asking myself all these question as this is a topic that sparkled into my heart since ever I heard about it…

I wish you will enjoy the patterns of this post as I enjoyed writing about it.

Patterns:

From different definitions we can assume that a general definition of pattern could be : “A repeating model of structures”, could these structures manifest in our inner reality, such as behavioural pattern, or externally, such as artistic patterns.

I assume we all can agree that, in some way or another our life, internally and externally, is ruled by patterns, behaviours or models that we follow on a daily basis to go through our journey.

Let me give you an example. What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning? What is the second and the third and so on… I believe you have a structure or a daily routine you follow.

Let’s Imagine the life of Mr. Gigi. He is a young guy working as a waiter in an Italian restaurant in Barbican. Now let’s have a close look about what he does in the morning.

Are you ready? Well first of all is better to say hello to Gigi and to ask his permission to observe him for the next 5 min. Yeah, we are not going too close…. We won’t go into red hot zones of the day or moment of extreme privacy…

Yeah, is a cool guy and he doesn’t mind! Also he got paid for this… so…

Gigi wakes up at 7 am every morning, as soon as he gets up, after a stretch, he walk slowly to the toilet to wash himself up and reconnect with the outside world. After, he moves to the luminous kitchen, where he drink a big glass of water before starting his daily meditation. He moves back to his room, where we are going to live him in silence for the next 30 min.

E voilá! 30 min after he is ready for other 30 min of yoga and stretching, before going to have a juicy breakfast with a big piece of fresh fruit and some almond milk.

After breakfast is now time for a quick shower and dressing up, ready for the morning shift.

And this is where we are going to leave Gigi wishing him a fantastic and happy day.

What did you see there? What was Gigi doing? Why, every morning does he do the same things?

Can you see any pattern in his behaviour?

Well, as you might have noticed we have described the pattern of a typical morning of Gigi. The whole morning could be considered a pattern. But there is more. The pattern: Morning is a sum of different patterns. the pattern wake up, the pattern washing up, the pattern meditation etch…

And any of these patterns is a sum of other patterns, the pattern of stretching, moving, breathing, drinking etch…

Can you see where I am going?

I am sure you are!

Our life is a series of patterns, behaviours, actions and thoughts. We are so used to those patterns that they seems normal for us and they constitute our habits.

Our habits are not more than a series of patterns we have been repeating constantly over and over again, mastering that behaviour.

Following up in the next post you will understand how patterns integrated in your mind can rule your life without you knowing how.

Keep following us!!

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May You live in awareness!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

How to elicit core values.

core values“Everybody talks about values. When we talk about market values, added values, business values, people values we are referring to the inner force driving everything towards the ultimate destination”.          – Simone Vincenzi

Hello dear souls! I hope I am finding you well and happy with this post.

If you are now reading this post, it means you are looking for something deeper that what you just perceive. It means that you are looking for the reason why, the inner force that drives you towards the choices you make on a daily basis.

If you haven’t read yet the first post I have written about Values, and you are asking yourself the question What are my Core Values?, I invite you to read now also What do You VALUE the most?.

Neuro Linguistic Programming call those inner forces Core Values. This is what are our human values. An inner force that drive us towards every decision we make, each moment of our life. It is a big statement, I know! But what if this is actually true? What if we really have some moral values that are, ultimately, shaping our destiny and what we get from life? What if there is an energy that, starting from our subconscious mind direct us, like rails, on the destination we are going to achieve?

Now that we have understood how much our values are determining our whole life, the question that might pop into your head now could be:

What can I do to elicit my values?

If You are asking yourself this question you are going the find the answer in the following paragraphs.

As you understood perfectly, eliciting our values is the most important thing we can do to check if what we are doing, the actions we take and the decision we make, are in alignment with who we really are and what is subconsciously driving us.

When You are aware of what your core values are you will be able to make the right choice in every given situation,without stepping in any self-sabotaging behaviour, which 90% of the time, comes from an incongruity between our beliefs, actions and our inner values.

Can You see now how important is to be aware of your Core Values?

Now, following, you find a process that will support you during the elicitation of Your Core Values. Invite you to keep asking those questions for, at least, 5 min and dig deeper every time. Sometimes our Operational Values got hidden from our Idealistic Values.

If you want to know what is the difference between our Operational Values and our Idealistic Values you might want to read                                                            What do You VALUE the most?

Enjoy the Process and have fun while doing it. There is no right or wrong answer, just your perfect and whole being.

I invite you also to share your thought at the bottom of the page after the exercise. How did you found it?

Your turn

Now chose an area of your Life. Like Career, Fun, Family, Friends, Leisure, Health, Love, Relationships…. Pick up the area that is the most important for you right now and ask yourself the following questions.  I invite you also to write down the answers so you can keep track of your thoughts.

  1. What is most important to you in the chosen area?
  2. What else?
  3. Keep asking those questions at least for 5 min and write down the first thing that is coming up into your mind, even if it is the same of the previous thought.
  4. Then look at the way you make decision in the chosen area. Pick up a couple of times when you had to make important decisions in those areas.
  5. What Value was that decision serving? Was it adventure. security, uncertainty, love, contribution, growth, appreciation…?
  6. Now pick up another example and ask the same question.
  7. Now think about what pushes your button in the chosen area, what is that really moves you to take action?
  8. And now find the patterns. Assessing your decisions, actions, thoughts and feelings, What is the value that has been served the most.

In this post you have learnt how your core values are affecting your reality and one of the most effective way to elicit them. Now that you have this awareness I am confident you are going to assess accurately what decision to make in alignment with what is driving you.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You live according to your values!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

The secret of emotional intelligence

emotional intelligenceLife is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.  – Lao Tzu

Halo halo!! Great to connect with you again! I wish I am finding you well, happy and healthy!

As you can see from the title, today’s post is about Emotional Intelligence and the Secret of  Your Emotional Intelligence.

First of all…

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence, as the name says is the intelligence of an emotion, where Intelligence is defined as the capacity for learning, reasoning, understanding, grasping truths, relationships,facts, meanings manifesting a high mental capacity. Emotional, of the emotions. Where Emotions are defined as the flow of energy that, moving through the body, generates every feeling.

Do you mean emotions are clever?

Yes! More than you think! Studying how different emotions interact and move into the body we understood that they, like any other form of energy, have a life and respond to our thoughts, actions and intentions.

See your emotions as a friend that gives you an answer for every question you make. Your questions are your thoughts, conscious and subconscious. We are constantly thinking and constantly asking questions that are answered by God, The Divine, The Universe, The Quantum Field (however you want to name it) with an emotion. Emotions, as Gregg Braden says, are the language in which we communicate with God and vice versa.

Using the personification of an emotion we can easily see that if we treat a friend with love, respect, care, appreciation and gratitude, we are going to develop a long lasting friendship.

If we, instead, neglect our friend, forget about him, don’t take care about him and escape from him, this friend is going to be very angry and react to us in an aggressive manner.

You are telling me that our emotions behave like living beings?

You got it!! Our emotions, if nurtured, cared and accepted are going to take care of us in return. If not, they are going to be very upset and to raise their voice because they want to be heard.

Let me ask you a question…

Do you prefer a friend who try to change you and want you to be somebody else, or a friend that accept and love you as you are, because who are you?

If your answer is the first… well, is better you assess who is surrounding you…                      If your answer is the second you can perfectly understand how an emotion can feel when not accepted. If you, on the other hand, accept the emotion fully and appreciate it as it is, you will experience a major shift in that emotion, who will express your gratitude towards you.

 Are you saying that if I express my gratitude and appreciation towards an emotion, no matter what the emotion is, I will feel a shift in the emotion?

Yes! This is how Emotional Intelligence work! Emotions, as every other energy, act like a mirror. They will reflect you back what you are sending out. In other terms I am talking about the Laws of Attraction. What you send out, you are going to get back.

This is why is so important to accept and nurture you emotions constantly. More Love, Appreciation, Gratitude, Acceptance you send out, more Love, Appreciation, Gratitude, Acceptance you are going to receive from your inner world.

This is just a little slice of the fascinating world of emotions.

If You want to know the most effective technique to Accept Your Emotions keep following us!! I am going to share a juicy technique I use daily that made major shifts in my life and in the life of million of people around the world.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You appreciate and accept your emotions!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

Healing the Body

lighthealing.51132444“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” 
― Rumi

Have you ever had a sudden or a chronic pain manifesting in your life? Maybe something happen after an argument or challenging situation and you found yourself sick after that moment? Maybe every time you think about something or you recollect a memory from the past you have a physical response in a part of your body? Maybe You have been already healing your body with different practices…

If You have experienced any those and you are asking yourself the question “What is the real truth about physical pain?” you are in the right room.

Today I was working with a client on the topic of vulnerability and we ended up healing an emotional issue she has been carrying within her body since she was a child. Every time we started talking about what happened, strong feelings started manifesting in her body. Tightness in her legs, heat on the back of her neck, cold in her hand and a pressure in her chest.

What is the meaning of those physical manifestations?

The Body is an intelligent and alive organism with more power than we are usually taught to think. I could spend the next 2 days going through what are the real capabilities of the human body but this is not the purpose of this post.

The purpose of this post is to raise the awareness about one of the cause of physical illness, pain, body sensations and how you can heal your body.

Since the day we start our development inside the womb the first cell that originates our being have the capacity to store and record memories, emotions, and events that will be all stored in the cellular memory of the body.

Yes… Cellular memory. Every single cell inside the body, carries within the memories of all the cells that preceded her and their experiences.  We are not just storing our memories but also the emotional memories of our parents, grandparents and so on up the line.

Some memories, in particular the one attached to strong feelings and emotions can create changes in the balance of the energetic system of the body.

Has been approved that any illness is caused by changes of the body states of homeostasis, which the perfect and ideal state for the body of growth and health.  Homestasis is reached when all the energetic systems of the body are in perfect balance.

Some memories, changing the balance of those energetic systems, prevent the body to reach homestasis and manifest themselves as strong and dense feelings all over the body.

Releasing the emotional attachment of those memories, enable the energetic systems  to reach their optimal state and heal the body.

I wanted to make all the process very simple. For this reason I wanted just to give the basic informations.

If You want to know more, please, feel free to contact me or write me a private message.

 Your Turn

Now I invite you to be aware of your own body.

  • How does your body respond during the day?
  • How does your body respond with different people?
  • How does your body react when recollecting strong memories?
  • Where does the memory manifest?

Remember: Awareness is always the first key of lasting and effective changes.

For more info about Emotional Releasing and body pain feel free to contact me any time.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always heal your body!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

What do You VALUE the most?

Values-cartoon“Our Values and Beliefs are the driving force of our life.” Tony Robbins

Hi, I wish I am finding you well and full of energy!! Following a meaningful conversation, I had yesterday with a dear friend of mine from Italy, about what moves people’s behaviours and actions I realised I didn’t post, so far, anything about Values. So I take the chance to explore deeper the subject with you with this blog post. 

I believe firmly now that our Values and our Beliefs determine the attitude we have towards life and therefore what we gain in Life.

So, What are our Values?

Our Values are the labels, the emotional state that we value the most in every area of our life. We have different emotional states, that we are constantly looking to meet or to avoid. We have made these “choices” in the early days of our growth, borrowing them from our parents, society and all that had an influence in our life.

If I ask you:

 “What is most important to you in Life?”

Everybody is going to come up with a different answer. This answer is one of the Values that are ruling his life.

 Values are single words that express a defined emotional state that we want to reach or avoid.

We have different Values for every area of our life. We have values for finances, relationships, health, leisure, etch…. and they are subconsciously driving us, conditioning our life and ultimately control our destiny. Moreover, our values, being subconscious patterns, play a mayor role on what we attract in our life.

 You definitely agree with me that:

 “What we attract in our Life is a mirror of our inner values and beliefs.”

Having awareness of the values that rule our life, is the first step on taking control of our life and understand why we make certain decision and why we act and behave the way we do.

 Awareness is always the key.

 We can divide our values into 2 different categories.

 

  1. Moving Towards Values
  2. Moving Away From Values

 Each category is divided into 4 different sub-groups:

 

  1. Mean Values
  2. End Values
  3. Idealistic Values
  4. Operational Values

 

MOVING TOWARDS AND MOVING AWAY FROM VALUES

 As previously said, Values are single words that express a defined emotional state.

 You agree with me that in life there are some emotional state that we want to reach and emotional state that we want to avoid. Isn’t it?

 

  1. Moving Towards Values: Are the Values, the emotional state that we want to feel, These pleasurable states that we value most are the ‘Moving-Toward’ values because these are the emotional states that we will do the most to attain. Some of these values are:

Love, Success, Freedom, Intimacy, Security, Adventure, Power, Passion, Comfort, Health.

 

  1. Moving Away From Values: Are the Values, the emotional states we do the most to avoid.

Rejection, Anger, Frustration, Loneliness, Depression, Failure, Humiliation, Guilt.

 We always have a hierarchy of Values in each area of our life and we always have, in each category, one that is most important for us.

 The awareness of our Values is the first step of living the life out of integrity and purpose you are committed to live.

 One interesting thing, that you might not know, is that conflicting values are the source of our self-sabotage. We might value success as Moving Forward Value, and we might fear rejection as Moving Away From Value. How can a person be successful if afraid of facing rejection? As soon as that person will feel rejected it will instantly sabotage himself and his success.

 Can You see how important are our Values?

 Now I just want to give You a brief introduction about the other sub-groups of your Values System.

 

  1. Mean Values: Family, Friends, Work, Life… These are just the surface, they are not the feelings we are looking for.
  2. End Values: These are the feelings. This is what we are looking for. They answer the questions: “What is most important to me in……?”, “How does……….makes me feel?”
  3. Idealistic Values: Are the values that we want to achieve in the future, or that are ideal for us, but not necessarily the ones that are operating now.
  4. Operational Values: The Moving Towards Values and Moving Away From Values that are operating at the moment.

What are Your values?

What is controlling the direction of your life right now?

Your Turn

I invite you now to consciously make the effort to explore your values and to make it a priority. You will understand so much about you and you’ll be able to make, consciously, the best choice in alignment with who you truly are.

In the next post I will share with you the most effective exercises to elicit your core values in every area of your life.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always follow your passion!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

It is all about Sharing

parrots_sharing“HAPPINESS IS ONLY REAL WHEN SHARED” 
― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild

When the lights of your successes shine on you… When you will be recognised for all you have put in what you do… When the joy of the prize touches you… That very joy, is nothing when the same is shared with somebody meaningful, somebody that can colour your life with the magic of Love. In that very moment, you don’t want to be alone, You don’t want to live that event by yourself.

I believe that every moment of our life, without judging it as sad, challenging, happy or joyful, when shared with somebody meaningful, it absorb another taste, a sweet taste enriched by the sweetness of love.

No matter what is that we go through in Life, when somebody else is part of that moment with the intention coming from a place of Love, something magical happen, and the meaning of the event is enriched 100 times more.

I’d love to share these thoughts with you because this is what I have been experiencing in the last few years of my life.

After moving to London and set up my life, I was so caught up in my duties, achievements, goals and parties that I neglected myself the gift of creating a meaningful, loving relationship.

I ended up celebrating a lot of success, most of them by myself or with people who didn’t mean a lot in my life.

Don’t get me wrong, it is not that I don’t appreciate my own company or I am not able to do, what I call. “INNER CELEBRATION”. But at the same time there is a spice that is missing, there is a flavour that could be enriched.

This spice, this flavour is called SHARING.

I believe that we, as human beings, we are born to share. Whether we do it consciously or not we are constantly sharing our feelings, emotions, thoughts and actions with all other living beings through our consciousness field and affecting what Young called our Superconscious or Collective Mind.

When this process has been made conscious, through our desire of sharing, the concentration of  energy created is so strong that the connection, between the living beings experiencing the event, starts writing gentle notes on the pentagram of that melody.

We feel happier, we feel more meaningful, we feel a greater sense of belonging. Belonging to that person, belonging to humanity, belonging to ourself.

Yes, I said belonging to ourself because I believe that the outer world is a mirror of our inner world, of who we really are inside, what we believe and what we value.

Being so, I also believe that those meaningful people who come to enrich every moment of our life, have the power to help connecting deeper within ourself. To get in touch and let out all the love and the care that resides within us.

This is because those people are so precious. This is because they are like jewels to preserve and care. To preserve and care with no attachments. With the awareness that one day, they will maybe move on to enrich the life of another person with the missing taste.

I am deeply grateful that after so many years I had the chance to experience it yesterday night, at the NCS 2012 Autumn graduation when (I am aware that this is my ego speaking…) I have been awarded with the Stand Out Staff Member prize after my first job as a Youth Coach. In that moment I was surrounded by all the people who made it possible: my mentor Steve, all the young people on the program, the other Youth Coaches and the member of the Future Foundations.

And it wouldn’t be the same if my girlfriend wouldn’t be there, seated at the back of the room, with a silent smile. During the night our sights crossed just a couple of times. But her eyes were saying to me: “Well done Simo, I am here for You.”

Her presence was the most beautiful gift of the night.

The bottom line is, don’t limit yourself and the experiences you are living. Share it with the all the meaningful people around you, people who can enrich your life with their support, care and love.

Thank You Silvia for sharing your Life with me and enrich my days with the sweet flavour of your love.

Your Turn

  • Think about all the meaningful people you have in your life.
  • Now think about all the meaningful people you’d like to have in the happiest moment of your life.
  • Who would you like to share the happiest moment of your life with?
  • Now take the time to tell them how you feel about them and why they are important for you. Don’t take for granted they know you love them.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always share!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~