Hi, I wish I am finding you well and full of energy!! Following a meaningful conversation, I had yesterday with a dear friend of mine from Italy, about what moves people’s behaviours and actions I realised I didn’t post, so far, anything about Values. So I take the chance to explore deeper the subject with you with this blog post.
I believe firmly now that our Values and our Beliefs determine the attitude we have towards life and therefore what we gain in Life.
So, What are our Values?
Our Values are the labels, the emotional state that we value the most in every area of our life. We have different emotional states, that we are constantly looking to meet or to avoid. We have made these “choices” in the early days of our growth, borrowing them from our parents, society and all that had an influence in our life.
If I ask you:
“What is most important to you in Life?”
Everybody is going to come up with a different answer. This answer is one of the Values that are ruling his life.
Values are single words that express a defined emotional state that we want to reach or avoid.
We have different Values for every area of our life. We have values for finances, relationships, health, leisure, etch…. and they are subconsciously driving us, conditioning our life and ultimately control our destiny. Moreover, our values, being subconscious patterns, play a mayor role on what we attract in our life.
You definitely agree with me that:
“What we attract in our Life is a mirror of our inner values and beliefs.”
Having awareness of the values that rule our life, is the first step on taking control of our life and understand why we make certain decision and why we act and behave the way we do.
Awareness is always the key.
We can divide our values into 2 different categories.
- Moving Towards Values
- Moving Away From Values
Each category is divided into 4 different sub-groups:
- Mean Values
- End Values
- Idealistic Values
- Operational Values
MOVING TOWARDS AND MOVING AWAY FROM VALUES
As previously said, Values are single words that express a defined emotional state.
You agree with me that in life there are some emotional state that we want to reach and emotional state that we want to avoid. Isn’t it?
- Moving Towards Values: Are the Values, the emotional state that we want to feel, These pleasurable states that we value most are the ‘Moving-Toward’ values because these are the emotional states that we will do the most to attain. Some of these values are:
Love, Success, Freedom, Intimacy, Security, Adventure, Power, Passion, Comfort, Health.
- Moving Away From Values: Are the Values, the emotional states we do the most to avoid.
Rejection, Anger, Frustration, Loneliness, Depression, Failure, Humiliation, Guilt.
We always have a hierarchy of Values in each area of our life and we always have, in each category, one that is most important for us.
The awareness of our Values is the first step of living the life out of integrity and purpose you are committed to live.
One interesting thing, that you might not know, is that conflicting values are the source of our self-sabotage. We might value success as Moving Forward Value, and we might fear rejection as Moving Away From Value. How can a person be successful if afraid of facing rejection? As soon as that person will feel rejected it will instantly sabotage himself and his success.
Can You see how important are our Values?
Now I just want to give You a brief introduction about the other sub-groups of your Values System.
- Mean Values: Family, Friends, Work, Life… These are just the surface, they are not the feelings we are looking for.
- End Values: These are the feelings. This is what we are looking for. They answer the questions: “What is most important to me in……?”, “How does……….makes me feel?”
- Idealistic Values: Are the values that we want to achieve in the future, or that are ideal for us, but not necessarily the ones that are operating now.
- Operational Values: The Moving Towards Values and Moving Away From Values that are operating at the moment.
What are Your values?
What is controlling the direction of your life right now?
I invite you now to consciously make the effort to explore your values and to make it a priority. You will understand so much about you and you’ll be able to make, consciously, the best choice in alignment with who you truly are.
In the next post I will share with you the most effective exercises to elicit your core values in every area of your life.
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May You always follow your passion!!
Simone Vincenzi ~Your Power to Shine~