“When someone sees the same people every day, as had happened with him at the seminary, they wind up becoming a part of that person’s life. And then they want the person to change. If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
expectation (n.) 1530s, from M.Fr. expectation(14c.) or directly from L. expectationem/exspectationem (nom. expectatio/exspectatio) “anticipation, an awaiting,” noun of action from pp. stem ofexpectare/exspectare(see expect). Related: Expectations.
- Anticipation of something happening: a confident belief or strong hope that a particular event will happen;
- Notion of something: a mental image of something expected, often compared to its reality.
- Expected standard: a standard of conduct or performance expected by or of somebody.
- Prospects for future: somebody’s likely prospects of wealth or success in the future, especially of inheriting money under somebody’s will.”
What are really our expectations and what is the power they ultimately have upon our life?
When talking about expectations, suddenly, a story comes up to my mind. The story tells about a little child. It was the morning of an old and snowy Christmas day. The little child, woke up, rushing, almost flying downstairs, in the where, under the green and decorated Christmas tree, 3 packs, of different dimension, colours and shape where standing, like little soldiers waiting for their captain. With a sparkling glow in his eyes, the child started unpacking all the presents, expecting to find, in one of them the Transformer he asked in the letter to Santa Claus. The first one was a c.d. player, the second a little flute and the third a huge Transformer. Suddenly the little child realised that what he was holding was not the one he was expecting, but it was slightly different. With tears in the eyes, screaming and kicking the other presents, the little child went back into the room, crying for hours.
What is this story telling you?
So often, in Life, we are that little child. We have great expectations on people, events, circumstances. We put expectations in everything that surround us. And we hold on so tightly to those expectations that, if not fulfilled, a sense of anger and frustration take over ourselves. And as the little child, we begin to despise all the other presents that enrich our life every single breath.
While focusing on what we expect to receive, we often don’t notice and delete what we have and what is beautiful around us. Like the kid of the story, who was unhappy even tough he received a lot of different presents.
People, events, circumstances… Everything is like a present. A present wrapped in the beautiful paper of Life. Very often we pretend that the content of the present is exactly what we want, is exactly what have dreamed of. Too often we forget that Life is like a caring person. A person that knows our wants, but he better knows our needs. And before serving us with what we want, he serve us with what we really need now, in order to make the best of we will have in the future.
How many times, wrapping the gifts unfolded in the paper of experience we didn’t find what we expected to find? How many times have we been blaming our givers for that? And how many times we turned out thanking our givers because we understood at a later time the value of that gift?
The faces of the coin of Expectations
Expectations are like a coin. A coin with 2 different, opposite faces. Expectations can destroy or save your life. Expectations can be your best friend, or your worst enemy.
Expectations can be the fuel or the break at the same time. It is up to you how you choose to use this amazing tool we have to our disposal.
Use Your expectations as being your map, but not the destination of your journey. Let them give you a sense of direction and the boost to maintain that direction. Don’t let them become Your destination. and be open to change of directions and sideways. Otherwise You’ll be stuck following a map that won’t lead you anywhere.
This week live with expectancy. Remind yourself, no matter what you will experience, that everything is coming for your Highest good. That everything is made for you. Don’t judge it as positive or negative. Just observe it and see the gift wrapped in this experience.
Choose an experience that you want and every night, before going to sleep, Ask Yourself.
- What is the gift in this for me?
- What is wrapped in this experience for me?
- What can I learn from this experience?
Just stay with the experience and observe it.
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Simone Vincenzi ~Your Power to Shine~