Overcoming Challenges: The fine art of Acceptancy

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA“I embrace the imperfections and celebrate them.”             Kesha

Struggles, desires, challenges, wants and needs. Sometimes, through the storms and winds of everyday’s challenges,  it seems there is no time or space to enjoy Life. It feels we are like little hamsters, trying to keep up running on our wheel of bills, responsibilities and duties.

Until last year I was running on this wheel. My thoughts were focused on how to pay my bills, how to have enough money for my basics, where I was going to get waisted on the weekend or planning a holiday in the best place to get waisted.

That thoughts and that lifestyle, even though I enjoyed it, don’t resonate with me any more. I’m now looking for something else, I’m now looking for a deeper meaning behind my actions and outcomes.

So, one sunny day of July 2011, motivated by the insightful and eye-opening Experience Week in the spiritual community of Findhorn in Scotland, the spiritual teachers and motivators I was listening to, I choose to change. I choose to take responsibility of my Life. I choose to identify my purpose and do the best I could do to live with integrity and do my part in the world. I choose to make the first step and allow the abundance I deserved to come into my Life.

From that moment, the moment I took that decision, my Life unfolded in ways I would never expected….

I’ve been given more challenges than before, more deep dark moments, more situations in which I didn’t now how I was going to make it. But it wasn’t all. Alongside with challenges I’ve been given all the help and the support to mature, grow and overcome them. I’ve been meeting loving people who became the friends that never hesitated to help me when I was in need and to celebrate joyful and happy moments. I’ve been given all the opportunities I was looking for in the field I’m working and I’ve been given the wisdom to follow through every tough moment.

…well… Have You ever found Yourself asking the question “Why me?” “Why do I have to through all this crap?”

You bet it!!! And it wasn’t long time ago since the last time. Have You ever experienced these moments where everything seems to go wrong? where health, finances and emotional balance seems to say goodbye, take a flight and go in holiday in the Canary Islands? It was one night, stuck in my bad with a terrible headache, I decided to listen to one of the conference call from the online seminar, Healing with the Masters, hosted by Jennifer McLean, interviewing the spiritual teacher Panache Desai.

It was the first time for me to hear his Truths. His words resonate within me immediately and his message, so clear and straight to the point, like an arrow, brake through my heart.

… and what was his message?

His message was very simple and comforting. I broke it down for You in little steps.

  • STRESS IS OUR CLOSEST FRIEND. IT SHOWS US WHAT CHANGES WE HAVE TO MAKE IN OUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU AND YOUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX.
  • EVERYTHING IS PERFECT AS IT IS. YOU AND THE REALITY YOU ARE EXPERIENCING.
  • EMBRACE EVERY MOMENT, EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS TO YOU.
  • EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS IS THE OPPORTUNITY YOU’VE BEEN WAITING FOR YOUR GROWTH. 

His key message is to EMBRACE AND ACCEPT OURSELVES IN THE WAY WE ARE AND OUR EXPERIENCE AS OUR GREATEST MASTER.

I’ve heard these concepts before, but now I was ready to really listen and learn.

And if You are here, it means You are now ready. If You are here it means that You want something more from Life and that You want to give more.

Well, I’m not saying this is easy to do, and I’m not saying that the pain of some experiences is easy to overcome. And it is fine to experience that pain, it is fine to experience that sorrow, it is fine to experience that frustration. There is nothing wrong with all of that. It is part of our human experience, it is part of our beauty. But we don’t want to stay stuck in this cycle. We want to acknowledge them just as they are: feelings. When we experience this new realm of reality, when we are willing to surrender to our experience, embrace it and learn from it, we are then ready to be thankful to what happened to us and to move on, grown and stronger than before.

….and what happens next?… what happens after I embrace my feelings and my experience?

I cannot tell You what will happen to You, that will be Your reality and part of Your own path. But I can share with You what happened to me. As soon as I stepped in this process, something amazing started to manifest. My body started healing immediately, I received a phone call who sorted out my financial situation and amazing opportunities opened up for the near future. It seems like somebody was just waiting for me to make this step. It seems like somebody listened to my call. I cannot express the feeling of gratitude I have now in my chest. I’m now certain that no matter what, everything is going to be fine, because, no matter what everything is fine in every moment.

Your turn:

If You are now facing a tough period in one area of Your Life, I’d love to share with You these steps that helped Me to detach, embrace, assess and brake through. I hope this will be useful also for You.

  1.  Take a breath. A very long deep breath.
  2. Focus Your attention on Your hearth, feel Your Heart, feel that sacred space, where no worries or problems are allowed, that place where You are an infinite field of possibilities, that place that is the realm of Love.
  3. Now say to Yourself, like talking to a little child, that everything is perfect as it is. That You are perfect as You are. That there is nothing to be worried about. That everything is fine. Ensure Yourself like You were the most important person in the world.
  4. Now ask Yourself the following questions and write down the first thing that comes into your mind. Don’t judge it, even if it seems it has no sense. Remember, there is no thing that is meaningless.
  5. What is in this experience for me? What can I learn?
  6. What is in this experience for Us? What can We learn?
  7. Knowing what I know now, what can i do different next time?
  8. Knowing what I know now, what can I say to myself next time I’m going to live this experience?
  9. And now be thankful to yourself, be thankful to your experience and be thankful to your emotions.
  10. You are now ready to move, stronger than before, wiser than before, and more focused than before. You now know what to do. Don’t wait more. Do it! and enjoy the gift of Life.

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May You always embrace the perfection of Your reality!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

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6 Steps to Change Perspective

“There are no facts, only interpretations.” 
― Friedrich Nietzsche.

What can You see in the image?

Look carefully…

Yes! Well Done!!

 This image is called the “Rubin’s cup” and it shows a big truth about the so called reality. In the image You can see either 2 faces or a cup, but You cannot see both at the same time.

…..What does it mean?….

It means that, our experiences, acquire different meanings depending from the perspective we are looking it from. Life is all about perspective. We can choose to see the 2 faces, or the cup; (a more common one) we can choose to see the glass half empty or half full.

…..So You are telling me that I can choose which meaning to give to each of my experiences?…

BINGOOOO!!!! This is it! Think about a rainy day. If You were planning a picnic with friends in a beautiful park, how do You feel about the rain? And how do You feel instead, about the rain, if You planned to spend a day relaxing at home, reading a book or watching a film? And how do You feel about the rain if You were a farmer and has been a very drought week?

….WOW!!! So… It is HOW I FEEL about something that gives the meaning to it!!!

BOOOM!!!! Yes again!! And this is a process You do it unconsciously to any given situation in Your Life. But the good news is that, having the awareness of how these stuffs work, You can consciously choose the meaning You are giving to Your reality, changing the emotional state You are in.

It sounds great!!…. But How can I do It?

The process is very simple and fun, and once You get used to it it will become automatic! I’ll guide You trough the 6 steps to change perspective!

Your Turn!!

  1. Step 1: EXPERIENCE: Think about a moment, a situation, or a challenge that You are currently facing. See it, hear it, feel it. How is it strong in a scale from 1 to 10?
  2. Step 2: AWARENESS: Then ask Yourself: What meaning AM I giving to this situation? How Is the meaning I’m giving to this situation serving me? What am I focusing on?
  3. Step 3: PERSPECTIVE: If I could change the meaning of this situation, which one could I choose? Which other meaning, that will serve me better, CAN I give to this situation? What else? What else? (be creative and see how many different meaning You can give to that situation)
  4.  Step 4: CHOICE: Now choose the meaning that serve You better and start creating the new story of the event based on it.
  5. Step 5: LESSON: Everything in Life happens for a reason. And the reason is that in any given event there is a lesson to learn for our physical, mental or spiritual development. Until we learn the lesson, other similar events will keep on recurring in our life, in order to help us fulfilling our purpose. This is the nature of KARMA. The last question is the reflection on the lesson presented in the event. Instead of asking “Why this always happen to me?” use smarter questions like: What was in it for me? What is the lesson I got to learn here? Knowing what I know now, what can I do next time? and now, be still, listen to your inner voice and pick the first world, image or sensation that comes up to You. Don’t judge it, because this Your lesson, given from Your Greatest Master.
  6. Step 6: ASSESSMENT: Now assess Yourself about the situation asking: In a scale from 1 to 10, how strong is my feeling towards that situation?  And measure Your progress from the first answer.

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May Your perspective be always FUN!!!

Simone Vincenzi                              ~Your Power to Shine~ 

Leadership: a way of Life

“Leadership is diving for a lose ball, getting the crowd involved, getting other players involved, it’s being able to take it, as well as to dish it out. That’s the only way you are going to get respect from the players.” Larry Bird

Good morning to You! I wish I’m finding You well and Happy while writing.

Today is a meaningful day for me, a day of excitement, power, reflection and feelings. Today is a day I’ve been waiting for long time. Tomorrow, with the uberrocking Team Wandsworth, is going to start the Autumn NCS (National Citizen Service), where more than 300 Young Adults will experience a Challenging Leadership program, that will finish with the creation of a social action that will positively impact the life of the community they are living in.

As I stated at the beginning today is a day of feelings… A cocktail of Excitement, Expectation, Expectancy are running through my body, blended in the shaker of Uncertainty and Curiosity. A lot of thoughts are running between my years right now. And the one I picked up to develop in this post is the main reason Why the NCS will be so life changing for the life of these Young Adults.

Leadership…

What is really leadership? It is not just one of the most frequents words used in today’s society. It is not just a skill. It is not just concept.

So…. What is Leadership?

I believe that Larry Bird, one of the best NBA player of all history, flag of the Boston Celtics in the 80’s, is a living example of what, how, who and why a great Leader is.

A Leader, is the person who is the first to jump in and the last to surrender. A Leader is the one who dives for the loose ball, putting aside the fears and should, taking the jump into the risk.

A Leader is the person that with his charisma and actions excites the crowd, and get all the people around involved and willing to support him. A Leader has the ability to excite.

A Leader is the person who takes the risk and responsibility when necessary, but also empowers others to do the same, stepping aside and motivating from the back.

A Leader is the person that through his words and actions is able to get the respect from the others.

A Leader is not just a Leader for one day. Leadership is an attitude. Leadership is a habit.

Leadership is being coherent and true each moment and in each situation.

Leadership is Change.

This is the reason why I’m so excited about NCS. The seeds of leadership will be planted in the adults of tomorrow, the adults that will lead us in the future!!! Come on!! Let’s make it!!

I wish You an empowering day and we see each other in a week!!

ps. I’ll keep an audioblog for updates from the site and I’ll share with you the exciting and challenging experience!

Much Love to You

Because You have the Power to Shine