Beliefs: a simple definition

beliefs“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their life and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their life.”  Anthony Robbins

Have You ever met a person that behaves in a different way than You? Have You ever met a person that seems to act as if everything was possible? And have you ever met a person who lived their life playing small, stuck in his own daily routine and never thriving for more? What is the difference between those people? What is that make a person achieve what for other people seems impossible?

Henry Ford answered this question in a very simplistic but profound way saying that: “Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you are right”.

 

Starting from these powerful quotes from Anthony Robbins and Henry Ford we can start to understand the impact and the role that our beliefs play in our lives. But before getting deeper into details is necessary to have a foundation about what they are and how they develop.

What is a belief?

The dictionary definition says a belief is: “A principle accepted as true or real without a proof . An opinion, a conviction”. 

Anthony Robbins define a belief as “A feeling of certainty that shapes the direction of our life.”

Beliefs are the thoughts and ideas that are no longer questioned. They have the power to create or destroy, because every thoughts, expectation and action is a direct result of such beliefs, and they shape the direction of our life.

Beliefs are the lens, the filter through what we see our and other people’s life. They decide the meaning we give to our experiences.

Where do our beliefs come from?

They come from other people like parents, teachers, peer group, friends, family, media, religion and society. From anyone who had or is still having an influence over us.

They are mainly formed subconsciously during childhood and adolescence.

 

When we are children our brain is like a little sponge and our experiences are what the sponge take in. This sponge doesn’t have the capability to distinguish what is good or not for us, what is positive and negative. It takes everything in, growing and growing.

Sometimes the message we receive from the outer world, from our experiences, are not always empowering  and encouraging, and maybe once we learned that we were clumsy, stupid, not good enough, not beautiful etch…. and in that moment, we made the decision, perhaps, that it is not safe to speak up, that we don’t deserve an amazing life, that we cannot do certain things because we are limited. We kept buying into our limitations repetitively, and that behaviour became so integrated into ourself that it became automatic, and we lost the awareness of it, accepting it as normal and setting it as our personal standard. Forgetting our reality, forgetting that the decision we made was based on somebody else’s belief about us.

Wow… so Who I am now and what I believe about myself has been shaped through years by other people…

Yes, and this is how we form our sense of identity. Our identity is just a set of beliefs we borrowed from other people. And I’m not saying that this has been always negative for us. Also the positive things we believe about ourself come from the same process. But behavioural scientists and child psychologist generally accept that children, under the age of five, receive ten or more negative phrases from their parents for every single positive one.

mmm… does it mean there is nothing I can do about it?

It is exactly the opposite! We have a lot of different tools that used all together can create everlasting results and positive changes in our life. In the following posts I’m going to share with You what I found most effective after several years of experiences.

Your Turn

When talking about beliefs, the most important thing we can do at the beginning is to be aware of them, without judgement. A belief is a thought that we repeat over and over again and that has an high emotional intensity.

One way to spot our negative beliefs is to have little notebook with us through the day and, whenever we catch ourself thinking a thought, write it down. In this way we create our Thoughts Journal.

Make the commitment for the next 3 days to write down all your thoughts you become aware of. If it is difficult to remember the task, write a note or set a reminder on your phone with the question: “What am I thinking now?”

You’ll be amazed by the result. And that will be the starting point to embrace your current limiting beliefs and change them with empowering ones!

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always believe in Yourself!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

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Overcoming Challenges: The fine art of Acceptancy

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA“I embrace the imperfections and celebrate them.”             Kesha

Struggles, desires, challenges, wants and needs. Sometimes, through the storms and winds of everyday’s challenges,  it seems there is no time or space to enjoy Life. It feels we are like little hamsters, trying to keep up running on our wheel of bills, responsibilities and duties.

Until last year I was running on this wheel. My thoughts were focused on how to pay my bills, how to have enough money for my basics, where I was going to get waisted on the weekend or planning a holiday in the best place to get waisted.

That thoughts and that lifestyle, even though I enjoyed it, don’t resonate with me any more. I’m now looking for something else, I’m now looking for a deeper meaning behind my actions and outcomes.

So, one sunny day of July 2011, motivated by the insightful and eye-opening Experience Week in the spiritual community of Findhorn in Scotland, the spiritual teachers and motivators I was listening to, I choose to change. I choose to take responsibility of my Life. I choose to identify my purpose and do the best I could do to live with integrity and do my part in the world. I choose to make the first step and allow the abundance I deserved to come into my Life.

From that moment, the moment I took that decision, my Life unfolded in ways I would never expected….

I’ve been given more challenges than before, more deep dark moments, more situations in which I didn’t now how I was going to make it. But it wasn’t all. Alongside with challenges I’ve been given all the help and the support to mature, grow and overcome them. I’ve been meeting loving people who became the friends that never hesitated to help me when I was in need and to celebrate joyful and happy moments. I’ve been given all the opportunities I was looking for in the field I’m working and I’ve been given the wisdom to follow through every tough moment.

…well… Have You ever found Yourself asking the question “Why me?” “Why do I have to through all this crap?”

You bet it!!! And it wasn’t long time ago since the last time. Have You ever experienced these moments where everything seems to go wrong? where health, finances and emotional balance seems to say goodbye, take a flight and go in holiday in the Canary Islands? It was one night, stuck in my bad with a terrible headache, I decided to listen to one of the conference call from the online seminar, Healing with the Masters, hosted by Jennifer McLean, interviewing the spiritual teacher Panache Desai.

It was the first time for me to hear his Truths. His words resonate within me immediately and his message, so clear and straight to the point, like an arrow, brake through my heart.

… and what was his message?

His message was very simple and comforting. I broke it down for You in little steps.

  • STRESS IS OUR CLOSEST FRIEND. IT SHOWS US WHAT CHANGES WE HAVE TO MAKE IN OUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU AND YOUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX.
  • EVERYTHING IS PERFECT AS IT IS. YOU AND THE REALITY YOU ARE EXPERIENCING.
  • EMBRACE EVERY MOMENT, EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS TO YOU.
  • EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS IS THE OPPORTUNITY YOU’VE BEEN WAITING FOR YOUR GROWTH. 

His key message is to EMBRACE AND ACCEPT OURSELVES IN THE WAY WE ARE AND OUR EXPERIENCE AS OUR GREATEST MASTER.

I’ve heard these concepts before, but now I was ready to really listen and learn.

And if You are here, it means You are now ready. If You are here it means that You want something more from Life and that You want to give more.

Well, I’m not saying this is easy to do, and I’m not saying that the pain of some experiences is easy to overcome. And it is fine to experience that pain, it is fine to experience that sorrow, it is fine to experience that frustration. There is nothing wrong with all of that. It is part of our human experience, it is part of our beauty. But we don’t want to stay stuck in this cycle. We want to acknowledge them just as they are: feelings. When we experience this new realm of reality, when we are willing to surrender to our experience, embrace it and learn from it, we are then ready to be thankful to what happened to us and to move on, grown and stronger than before.

….and what happens next?… what happens after I embrace my feelings and my experience?

I cannot tell You what will happen to You, that will be Your reality and part of Your own path. But I can share with You what happened to me. As soon as I stepped in this process, something amazing started to manifest. My body started healing immediately, I received a phone call who sorted out my financial situation and amazing opportunities opened up for the near future. It seems like somebody was just waiting for me to make this step. It seems like somebody listened to my call. I cannot express the feeling of gratitude I have now in my chest. I’m now certain that no matter what, everything is going to be fine, because, no matter what everything is fine in every moment.

Your turn:

If You are now facing a tough period in one area of Your Life, I’d love to share with You these steps that helped Me to detach, embrace, assess and brake through. I hope this will be useful also for You.

  1.  Take a breath. A very long deep breath.
  2. Focus Your attention on Your hearth, feel Your Heart, feel that sacred space, where no worries or problems are allowed, that place where You are an infinite field of possibilities, that place that is the realm of Love.
  3. Now say to Yourself, like talking to a little child, that everything is perfect as it is. That You are perfect as You are. That there is nothing to be worried about. That everything is fine. Ensure Yourself like You were the most important person in the world.
  4. Now ask Yourself the following questions and write down the first thing that comes into your mind. Don’t judge it, even if it seems it has no sense. Remember, there is no thing that is meaningless.
  5. What is in this experience for me? What can I learn?
  6. What is in this experience for Us? What can We learn?
  7. Knowing what I know now, what can i do different next time?
  8. Knowing what I know now, what can I say to myself next time I’m going to live this experience?
  9. And now be thankful to yourself, be thankful to your experience and be thankful to your emotions.
  10. You are now ready to move, stronger than before, wiser than before, and more focused than before. You now know what to do. Don’t wait more. Do it! and enjoy the gift of Life.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always embrace the perfection of Your reality!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

What is NLP?

“NLP is the science of modelling the patterns of human behaviour.”

What is NLP? and Why  everybody is talking about it?

In this article You’ll find the answers to these 2 questions.

NLP, and his intriguing concepts made me take the first steps in my personal development journey that led me to become a Life Coach.

The art of success. The art of achievement…

Who doesn’t want to be successful in Life? Who doesn’t want to achieve?

NLP tells You what is the difference between Your success or Your struggles. It tells You what is the difference that make the difference between You living the life You dream and being lived from somebody else’s plans.

Today I want to share this article gently offered by NLP University.

Click here for the article!

I hope You’ll enjoy as much as I did!!

Your Turn

  • What do You know about NLP?
  • What can You tell us about Your experience with NLP?
  • What is the most NLP tool for You?

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May Your Life be uber successful!!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

7 steps for Self Management

Ciao a tutti!!

I wish I’m finding you Well, Happy, Healthy and Abundant!!

(The following post has a lot of information and I decided to write in bold the key information )

Tonight’s post is about Self Management, a topic very broad that includes meaningful subgroups.

I’ll share with you what does it mean for me,  what I discovered about myself this afternoon, and a tool I used this afternoon to organise messy paperwork of 4 months of training, writing and reading.

Self Management: the art of focusing body and mind towards a specific task, controlling the useless information and achieving the aim in a pre-established time frame. i.e. The Art of Self Control.

The term Self Management is a big jigsaw, formed by 3 main pieces:

  1. Time Management: the ability to achieve in a determined time frame
  2. Mind Management: the ability to make friendship with the chatterbox
  3. Body Management: the ability to integrate sabotaging feelings

All the 3 main pieces are fundamental to complete the jigsaw of Self Management.

I’ll go in more details and I’ll share with you, in the next posts, the tools that has been more effective for me.

This afternoon, after a shining Kundalini Yoga class, and looking at the pile of sheets all over my room, I decide that was time to leave the visionary side of me for a while, stepping into the managerial one. With the aim of organising all the paper work and create an organised system that could support me in the future.

As soon as I sit down, surrounded by what seemed at the beginning a “Mission Impossible”, strong feelings of discomfort started arising in my chest, the same feelings and thoughts that in the past prevented me to manage my paperwork effectively. Maybe You have heard inside yourself that voice too: “I’ll do it tomorrow, for the moment I just want to relax…” “I can wait just 10 min more…” And then those 10 min, turned into tomorrow, days, weeks and months. Me and that voice are working really well together!!

This time was different, I decided take I was going to do it, no matter what.

  1. The first thing to do was to clear or at least lower the volume of the emotions and the beliefs that were leading me to a different direction.
  2. I worked on the feelings using EFT* for 30 min, and through muscle testing* I identified that I had, and probably still have the strong sabotaging belief that “I am a very disorganised person”.  Looking at my surroundings I wasn’t a surprise at all!!
  3. As soon as the feeling lowered the intensity, I installed the belief that I am an highly organised person, approaching the afternoon to come with a sense of joy, passion and ease, like it was the funniest task ever!
  4. I asked myself: “Which is the most effective and creative way in which I can store and organise all the paperwork?” 
  5. The answer that came to me was to divide all the sheets by category, without analysing them. Just separating them topic to topic.
  6. After it has been the time to identify which had to be reviewed.
  7. And finally store them in the appropriate folder.

So I sat on the floor, surround by the headers written in little sheets. I started placing every paper under the appropriate category, looking at which had to be reviewed and store them in their folder!

In 3 hours, all that seemed at the beginning a “Mission Impossible”, has been accomplished, and I’m so proud to my creative side for the tools that enabled me, with fun, to achieve my goal of the day!

I call this the 7  Self Management step model.

  1. Acknowledge the feeling.
  2. Recognise the correspondent limiting beliefs/ fears.
  3. Lower the Volume.
  4. Think specifically about what you want and ask the right question.
  5. Take inspiration. 
  6.  Use the right tool.  
  7. Celebrate!

I’ll post also the 7 step Overwhelm free tool (organise arrear paperwork).

I hope this will be useful for you has it has been for me!

Much Love to You all!!

May your life be always happy!!

The power of Beliefs

Hello dears, I hope I’m finding you well and healthy today!

The topic of the day is the key discovery that me made decide to work as coach and the area of coaching that is most important for me.

Today I want to talk about beliefs.

Before we start I’d like to sharestory with you. The story about how I came across this life changing discovery that shaped my life forever.

It was a cold December night, almost 2 years ago. I couldn’t fall asleep that night. So I decided to watch videos on youtube and searching the web for something that could catch my focus. When, around 5 o’clock in the morning, my dear friend Anna Irene Controllo send me a video interview that kept me staring at the laptop for 1h without pauses. And that made me so excited that I kept walking around the house like a little mouse!

Yes, I’m telling the truth. What I have discovered from that interview changed my life and the way I now perceive it completely.

The speaker is a biologist called Bruce Lipton, Phd in cellular biology and best selling author with the book “Biology of beliefs”. In the interview (that you find attached at the end of the post and that, if you are an open minded person, receptive to new empowering ideas and concepts, I warmly invite you to watch) He talks about how, from studying the muscle cells, his research shifted toward the power of thoughts and beliefs, showing scientific profs on how beliefs and thoughts affect the body at a cellular level.  And that was for me the first step towards the understanding of this fascinating concept that is now the focus of my coaching practice.

So… from now, I’m going to share with you what I have discovered about the amazingness of our beliefs,  the different ways to raise awareness of the “hidden ones” and the most effective tools to change and repattern them.

It gives me a chance to put together and organise daily all my thoughts, the knowledge and the wisdom I’ve gathered in the last 2 years of research and experimentation. And also gives me opportunity to empower you with the tools that I found more effective and that really make a difference in our mind, body and consciousness, both on a conscious and subconscious level.

Because this is why I’m here for and this is part of what I feel being my mission. Empower people to shine their own light, while releasing limiting patterns for their personal evolution and the evolution of humanity.

For this aim I’ve created a new category called The Power of Beliefs, where I’ll put all my thoughts, the knowledge and wisdom gathered in the last 2 years of research.

As I promised you, this is the link of the interview with Bruce Lipton. I’ll post other videos and seminars from him and other teachers during the creation of this process.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEuGlndt1yc

Stay tuned for the next post entitled: What Beliefs Really Are.

I wish you Happiness and Joy.