Frustration? You are Welcome!!

frustration“When experiencing frustration, you can let frustration lead you or you can lead frustration to support you in what you want to get.”                       My inner voice.

 

It is a dark, cold Friday night of February. The living rooms of the small houses surrounding me were enlightened by the soft moving shades of the television screen or by a luminous halo pending from the sealing.

It is 20.30. The cold weather of London, is now starting penetrating into my bones.

I lost the sensitivity on my hands and feet long time ago and I am now just waiting for somewhere warm where to rest my body.

Me and my friend Raphael have been walking constantly, with fast pace since 3.30, time of the beginning of the shift.

Yes, just the 2 of us today to make a difference for the people affected by cancer that McMillan is brightly supporting.

It is 20.30.

After 5h of hard work we were been able just to get 1 sign up…

The end of the shift is getting closer and the temperature is dropping. Dozens of people don’t even come to the door or don’t want hear abut us…

It is in that moment, while knocking in front of number 1, Palmer Street, that I catch myself saying:

“Why am I doing all this?” “Who is making me work as a door to door foundraiser?” “Why can’t I find a job in the warmth of an office?”

Is in that moment that I catch these thoughts, running wildly into my head.

I felt really down. And more I let myself down, more the people were responding negatively to me, slamming doors in front of my face.

Is in that moment that I decided to have a small team leading session inside my own head.

For an easier writing I’ll call my frustrated self F and my motivational self M. I hope you will enjoy the little drama that was going on inside my head in that moment.

M started this motivational talk saying to F:

“I know you feel frustrated, I know you are not getting what you were expecting from the day, and I know it is tough keep walking with the same level of energy for 5 hours, under this cold weather. And I am sorry you have to experience all this. I am sorry you have to go true such a tough moment.”

F replied: “Thank you… I really need a brake… I cannot keep working this way… I feel too frustrated.”

“Well, I agree with you, just stop for a minute and have a sip of water. I am sure you will soon feel better…” continued M.

So I stopped, and took a large glass of water from the termos I was carrying inside my bag.

M then continued:

“You know F, you know how the Universe works. All the difficulties you are facing along the way are a gift for you. This is your present now. I know you are aware that just challenging yourself you can grow and develop the skills that will allow you to overcome future challenges.”

M was right, I knew inside that I am creating this reality and what I am manifesting is what I need to grow and develop spiritually, mentally and physically. I knew it… but somehow that knowledge slipped into a remote place of my mind.

M kept on saying: “You are going to always experience frustration in your life when you are not getting what you want. There is nothing wrong. Frustration is a human feeling and is part of our perfection. There is nothing you can do about that. What you can do instead is to manage your frustration and let her be your best ally.”

F went silent for a while allowing M to move on with the talk.

“When experiencing frustration, you can let frustration lead you or you can lead frustration to support you in what you want to get. You know you have the power to do it. You know you have the power to understand, lead and manage your emotion in the way that will serve you manifesting what you really want.”

“Wow… What a great motivator!!!” Another voice, that now I call G, popped up from nowhere said to me.

M then took the leadership of my mindset and my emotional state, guiding F towards every door and handling in the best possible way every situation that came up afterwards.

5 minutes to 9.

Last door and then the shift was over.

A gentle and beautiful woman from Hungary opened the door greeting me with a beautiful smile. It seems she was waiting just for me. We started laughing and talking about food, holidays, Hungary and Italy. Needless to say that she wanted to sign up immediately allowing me to raise founds for McMillan and reaching my best personal and team score as a team leader since I started working for Home Foundrasing.

I kept believing I could make it until last minute, until last door.

I kept my motivation high and did the best I could each door I knocked.

It seems that the Universe was testing me and observing me, pushing me to the point where I had just to choices: Drop or Win.

I won, I won the inner battle that was taking place between my hears, handling it with the warmth and wisdom of my heart.

 

It is in those days that I realise how much I have developed, how much I have changed and I much I still have to grow.

It is in those days that I thank the Universe for what is giving to me and for what I am manifesting in my life.

It is in those days that I would like to see and give him/her an HI FIVE for the perfection of each moment.

 Your Turn

Now I invite you to think about a challenging situation you have experienced recently you could handle in a better way.

Reflect above the following questions:

 

  • What were you saying to yourself?
  • What could you say instead?
  • What are you going to say next time it will happen?

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May You always lead frustration!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

 

Your Inner Child

inner childLook inside, you’ll find a deeper love, the kind that only comes from high above. If you’ll ever meet you inner child, don’t cry, no, no. Tell him everything is gonna be alright. Bob Sinclar

Today’s post is entitled Your Inner Child and We are going to tap into Who is Your inner child, why is important to make constant contacts with your inner child, how to get in touch with your inner child and finally, I’m going to give you more references if you feel attracted by the topic.

Are You ready? Great!!! Let’s start then!!

You are maybe asking Yourself now,

Who is my inner child?

Your Inner child is the emotional side of you,  that part of you that, like a child, needs love. That part of you that needs to be embraced.  That part of you that needs to be nurtured. That part of you that needs you fully.

What do you mean?

When we grow up it seems we forget or we feel ashamed to love ourselves.

Look at a little baby, he loves and explore every inches of his body, with curiosity and a sense of wonder. A little baby is perfect to his eyes. Everybody wants to stay around them. And they bring happiness and joy everywhere they go. But somewhere along the way, we lost that magic, we lost that wonder, we lost that love for ourselves.

What happened then?

We started buying in what other people told us we had to be or not, in what other people told us we were capable of or not, and we started forgetting and denying our original beauty.

It was painful for us to shine because of the judgements of other people. It was painful for us to show fully our beauty because of the reactions of other people. And we decided that was safer to accommodate others needs, and reflect others expectations. That was the moment where we decided to close, into a remote room, our Inner Child.

It was all conditioned by our past experiences.

And now…Why is important to open that room? Why is important to nurture our Inner Child again?

The answer is simple. Take a moment and look around you, how many people complain about themselves? How many people don’t like themselves? How many people don’t love themselves? How many people find always something wrong in themselves?

Working with clients and meeting people around the world I’ve been often asking the question: tell me 3 thing you LOVE about yourself. You know what the most common answer I received has been? I DON’T KNOW.

And You know what disconcert the most? The 80% of Young people told me that they didn’t like nothing about themselves. What is this telling you?

How is it possible that with all the beautiful qualities, gifts, skills and resources that we have, is difficult to be aware of these and to find what we Love about ourselves?

Well… How can I get back now? How can I re-learn to appreciate and love Myself?

We can heal ourself through our emotions. Our emotions are an amazing tool for healing.

How does it work?

It is very easy. I’ll show you now. Think now about something You love, something that makes you happy, something that you really care about? What do you feel? What do you experience inside your body? Some people feel a sense of relaxation, some others feel a tingling sensation around the heart… there is no right or wrong feeling. everybody has is own feelings.Now focus that feeling towards yourself, and go in front of a mirror. Direct those feelings towards yourself while saying, “I love You and accept You as You are.” Now, Find a mirror and do it now. Say three times, I love you and accept you as you are, I love you and accept you as you are. I love you and accept you as you are.

Because the reality is that you are perfect as you are. that there is nothing to change in you. that there is nothing to change in your reality and what you are experiencing. That everything is perfect as it is. And you have a right to be loved, and you have a right to receive. Embrace fully who you are, and what you are experiencing. this is part of your meaning, this is part of your mission and you are here for a reason.

If You want to know more and have a deeper understanding on how to communicate with your Inner Child You can look into Luise Hay and her work. She is a healer and a metaphysical teacher. One of the authorities in the self-help industry. she has more than 30 years of experience in the field. One programme that really inspired me and had a great impact on my life is called You can Heal Your Life.

Now I want to leave You with the wish that Your  Love for Yourself will grow minute after minute. And that you’ll be able to experience all the Joy and the real Happiness that just loving yourself can give You.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always Love Your Inner Child!!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

Follow Your Intuition

albert-einstein-intuition

“Listen to Your intuition. It will tell You everything You need to know.”  Anthony J. D’angelo

What is your intuition? What is the source of your intuition? Why is important to make constant contacts with your intuition? How can you touch with your intuition?

If You are craving to know the answers, You are in the right place.

Let the music begin!

Have You heard somebody else or even yourself saying: “I feel this is the right thing to do…” without even knowing why. Or “I’m not convinced by that person” and you don’t even know that person. Or again “I have the feeling that…” Have you ever had one of these experience?

If you say yes, well done! You are now aware of some of the situations when you let yourself be guided by your intuition. If You say no… I don’t believe You!! We all had, in some point in our life, made a decision because of our gut feelings, or following a voice inside our head.

What is our intuition?

Any thoughts?

Let’s see what the dictionary says about it:

Intuition:

  • a direct and clear experience, without the mediation of the logic, of an object or his relationships.

  • clear and focus perception of reality or presentment of future facts.

  • catch the essence of an object, thought or idea.

 What is this showing you?

We can affirm that our intuition can be considered one of the modalities that our mind uses to access information, a modality completely different from our logical-rational processes, and that complements these processes. We can attribute to our intuition every time we had a flash or a sudden idea that solved a problem we had, or made us see things into another perspective. Our intuition is directly connected to, what I call, our Shining Self.

 I’d like to share with You a true story. This is what happened to Mario Moretti Polegato. While travelling to Reno, Nevada, to promote the wines of his vineyard in a conference, Mario decided to have a walk. He got really upset by the overheating of his feet caused by the rubber sole in the shoes he was wearing. Intuitively, he took a knife and made holes in both of the rubber soles of his shoes. In this way he found a simple and effective way to let out the heat in excess in his shoes. Later, Moretti, developed his intuition in a small footwear company of his family, developing a new technology for his rubber soles. He created the first shoes that breath. “Geox, la scarpa che respira”.

 What do you think about this story? What is this story telling you?

I believe that is one of the proof of what our intuition is capable of.

And what is the source of our intuition?

I believe that the source of our intuition is the Field. Let me just talk about the field for a second. Quantum Physics has shown that there is nothing such emptiness around us. All that seems empty is, in reality, a field of energy, vibrating at different frequencies. Quantum Physics shows also that this field is a field of infinite possibilities that coexist and manifest themselves into what we perceive being our reality.

What does this mean? It means, that when we have an intuition, when we have that feeling inside us that tell us what to do or not do, who to trust or not trust, that feeling of excitement when we have a brilliant idea… all of this is because, in that moment, we are aware of what the field is communicating to us. 

Yes, the field is always communicating to us every time. Every moment we receive infinite messages from the field based on what we focus on.

Ask and You shall receive…

If we focus on solution, our being is more receptive to what the field is communicating to us, but if we focus on problems, our mind and our thoughts, create a tick cloud between us and the solutions stored in the field.

Why is so important to develop a loving relationship with our intuition, to tap into our intuition constantly in order to have access to the information that we need from the field?

So what are all the benefits you can gain from tapping into your intuition:

  • faster and clearer decision making

  • increased empathy with other people

  • greater success in all the areas of your life

  • have the right idea at the right moment

  • the peace to know you are doing the right thing

Is it enough?

How this could improve your life?

What can you miss out if you don’t try to develop a strong relationship with your intuition?

In the next articles I’m going to share with you some exercises that will help you connecting deeper with your intuition.

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May You always be intuitive!!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

10 Juicy tips to live a Joyous Life

“Joy is not in things, it is in us.”                                        R. Wagner (1813-1883)

Joy, Joy, Joy. 3 letters with a deep meaning. We live our life running towards these 3 letters. Each of our action is dictated by these 3 letters. We make plans to achieve these 3 letters. We make changes to feel these 3 letters. We Love to achieve these 3 letters.

A question, while writing is popping up in my mind…

What is really Joy?

The definitions You can find in the dictionary could be:

1. the emotion of great delight or happiness caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying; keen pleasure;elation
2. a source or cause of keen pleasure or delight; something or someone greatly valued or appreciated.
3. the expression  or display of glad feeling; festive gaiety.
4. a state of happiness or felicity.
Now, What do these definition have in common?
Guess it…
Yes!!!
Talking about the origin of Joy we can see that Joy is an emotion, a feeling, a state.
Where is the origin of feelings?
You Got it!!
Feelings are inside our body. Mainly we are the creators of feelings.

So… You are telling me that Joy is inside me?

Well Done! Joy, like any other feelings is inside You and You can create it any time You want.

…mmm… Why then people seems to constantly look for it externally?

Great question! I would say that this happens for 2 main reasons. The first is because tapping into the inner, everlasting Joy requires a bit of self-exploration. And often people tend to avoid digging within themselves. Maybe scared about what they might find. The second is because some people don’t really know how to experience Joy and what they can do to live a Joyous Life.

Ok… Well… talking about Joy within and self-exploration sound to me a lot of Woo-Woo stuff. Is there any practical action I can take to start experiencing this state of Joy?

I understand what You mean… I had the same reaction at first. And Yes! at the end of the day Life is all about taking action! The so called Woo-Woo stuff are the actions that give the person the strengths and the mindset to follow through.

So… What can I do?

I’m going now to share with You 10 Juicy tips that can support You in living the Joyous Life You deserve.

1. Start Your day being grateful for what You have.

As soon as You wake up give thanks for all the people You have in Your life, the food, the water, Your possession… Ask Yourself the question: What is important in my life that I need to be grateful for?

2. Eat an Healthy and Balanced diet.

You are what You eat is not just an ancient proverb. Food is information and has the power to turn on and off genes and releasing hormones. Everything You eat effects You on the Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual level.

3. Move Your Body

When moving and during exercise, high levels of serotonin (the happiness hormone) are released, clearing the energetic blockages where negative emotion are stored.

4. Treat Yourself like if You were the most important person on the Earth.

Self Love is a natural Joy booster!! Even if it seems a bit odd, go in front of a mirror and say out loud to Yourself all the nice things You’d like other people share about You. If You don’t have any idea start with: “I Like You”, then gradually moving to the advanced phase:  “I Love You”. Do it for just 2 minutes and notice how You feel.

5. Do a random act of kindness.

Give a smile, help a stranger, donate to a charity… Giving to others without expectations makes us feel good.

6. Take time for Yourself.

Assess where You are, envision Your future, plan the action steps that will bring You there.  Set aside at least 1h weekly to see where Your action are bringing You and where to adjust Your steering wheel.

7. Relax

Set aside daily at least 30 min for Your personal relaxation. Switch off Your mind reading a novel, listening to some soothing musing, taking a bubble bath, or doing anything else You enjoy doing.

8. Make Love.

Making Love with a person You Love and care about ads spice and meaning to Your Life. It is the most powerful act of giving and receiving. And is fun!!!

9. Change perspective on things.

If an event upsets You, think about the meaning You are giving to that event and choose the one that most serves You. For the steps on how to do it read 6 steps to change perspective.

10. Celebrate!!!

Celebrate You achievements! Do something wild, crazy, or relaxing that You enjoy as payoff for Your good work!! Life is about enjoying what You do!!

Your Turn

  1. How would You rate Your state of Joy in a scale from 1 to 10?
  2. What can You do NOW!! to score 1 point higher?
  3. What is that You most enjoy doing in life?
  4. What can You do today to bring more Joy in Your Life?
  5. What useless habits can You replace with one from the above?
  6.  What can You do today to celebrate Your past success if You haven’t done so?

I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.

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May Your Life be always Joyful!!

Simone Vincenzi                           ~Your Power to Shine~

Ripple effect

Today I’ll leave a video talk about my feelings in this moment.

I remember the first time I watched it… I was in Maranello, dealing with the coaching material for my diploma.

In a moment of pause I decided to open my email, where I found this gift from my dear friend Andreia Silva. That made my day, leaving me with tears of joy in my eyes and happy feelings in my chest for the rest of the day.

Everytime I watch it I still feeling strong, delicate emotions running through my eyes in the form of tears.

I want to share with you this little gift that had so much meaning for me.

Relating to the video, I’d love to quote the words that Phil, a dear friend of mine, shared with me, with tears of truth in his eyes:

“My purpose in life is to enhance the life of the people I Love. I don’t know the effect that my actions of Love can create, but Love is like stone throne into a calm pond, we don’t know the how far the ripple effect can spread.” 

What Can you do today to enhance the life people around you that you Love?

If you have to take one action to enhance the life of the people around you that you Love, what would it be?

Mine for today is to call a friend and tell him how much I miss him and how much he means for me. Tell him I care about him and I love him.

May You always be in the ripple!!