Frustration? You are Welcome!!

frustration“When experiencing frustration, you can let frustration lead you or you can lead frustration to support you in what you want to get.”                       My inner voice.

 

It is a dark, cold Friday night of February. The living rooms of the small houses surrounding me were enlightened by the soft moving shades of the television screen or by a luminous halo pending from the sealing.

It is 20.30. The cold weather of London, is now starting penetrating into my bones.

I lost the sensitivity on my hands and feet long time ago and I am now just waiting for somewhere warm where to rest my body.

Me and my friend Raphael have been walking constantly, with fast pace since 3.30, time of the beginning of the shift.

Yes, just the 2 of us today to make a difference for the people affected by cancer that McMillan is brightly supporting.

It is 20.30.

After 5h of hard work we were been able just to get 1 sign up…

The end of the shift is getting closer and the temperature is dropping. Dozens of people don’t even come to the door or don’t want hear abut us…

It is in that moment, while knocking in front of number 1, Palmer Street, that I catch myself saying:

“Why am I doing all this?” “Who is making me work as a door to door foundraiser?” “Why can’t I find a job in the warmth of an office?”

Is in that moment that I catch these thoughts, running wildly into my head.

I felt really down. And more I let myself down, more the people were responding negatively to me, slamming doors in front of my face.

Is in that moment that I decided to have a small team leading session inside my own head.

For an easier writing I’ll call my frustrated self F and my motivational self M. I hope you will enjoy the little drama that was going on inside my head in that moment.

M started this motivational talk saying to F:

“I know you feel frustrated, I know you are not getting what you were expecting from the day, and I know it is tough keep walking with the same level of energy for 5 hours, under this cold weather. And I am sorry you have to experience all this. I am sorry you have to go true such a tough moment.”

F replied: “Thank you… I really need a brake… I cannot keep working this way… I feel too frustrated.”

“Well, I agree with you, just stop for a minute and have a sip of water. I am sure you will soon feel better…” continued M.

So I stopped, and took a large glass of water from the termos I was carrying inside my bag.

M then continued:

“You know F, you know how the Universe works. All the difficulties you are facing along the way are a gift for you. This is your present now. I know you are aware that just challenging yourself you can grow and develop the skills that will allow you to overcome future challenges.”

M was right, I knew inside that I am creating this reality and what I am manifesting is what I need to grow and develop spiritually, mentally and physically. I knew it… but somehow that knowledge slipped into a remote place of my mind.

M kept on saying: “You are going to always experience frustration in your life when you are not getting what you want. There is nothing wrong. Frustration is a human feeling and is part of our perfection. There is nothing you can do about that. What you can do instead is to manage your frustration and let her be your best ally.”

F went silent for a while allowing M to move on with the talk.

“When experiencing frustration, you can let frustration lead you or you can lead frustration to support you in what you want to get. You know you have the power to do it. You know you have the power to understand, lead and manage your emotion in the way that will serve you manifesting what you really want.”

“Wow… What a great motivator!!!” Another voice, that now I call G, popped up from nowhere said to me.

M then took the leadership of my mindset and my emotional state, guiding F towards every door and handling in the best possible way every situation that came up afterwards.

5 minutes to 9.

Last door and then the shift was over.

A gentle and beautiful woman from Hungary opened the door greeting me with a beautiful smile. It seems she was waiting just for me. We started laughing and talking about food, holidays, Hungary and Italy. Needless to say that she wanted to sign up immediately allowing me to raise founds for McMillan and reaching my best personal and team score as a team leader since I started working for Home Foundrasing.

I kept believing I could make it until last minute, until last door.

I kept my motivation high and did the best I could each door I knocked.

It seems that the Universe was testing me and observing me, pushing me to the point where I had just to choices: Drop or Win.

I won, I won the inner battle that was taking place between my hears, handling it with the warmth and wisdom of my heart.

 

It is in those days that I realise how much I have developed, how much I have changed and I much I still have to grow.

It is in those days that I thank the Universe for what is giving to me and for what I am manifesting in my life.

It is in those days that I would like to see and give him/her an HI FIVE for the perfection of each moment.

 Your Turn

Now I invite you to think about a challenging situation you have experienced recently you could handle in a better way.

Reflect above the following questions:

 

  • What were you saying to yourself?
  • What could you say instead?
  • What are you going to say next time it will happen?

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May You always lead frustration!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

 

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6 Steps to Change Perspective

“There are no facts, only interpretations.” 
― Friedrich Nietzsche.

What can You see in the image?

Look carefully…

Yes! Well Done!!

 This image is called the “Rubin’s cup” and it shows a big truth about the so called reality. In the image You can see either 2 faces or a cup, but You cannot see both at the same time.

…..What does it mean?….

It means that, our experiences, acquire different meanings depending from the perspective we are looking it from. Life is all about perspective. We can choose to see the 2 faces, or the cup; (a more common one) we can choose to see the glass half empty or half full.

…..So You are telling me that I can choose which meaning to give to each of my experiences?…

BINGOOOO!!!! This is it! Think about a rainy day. If You were planning a picnic with friends in a beautiful park, how do You feel about the rain? And how do You feel instead, about the rain, if You planned to spend a day relaxing at home, reading a book or watching a film? And how do You feel about the rain if You were a farmer and has been a very drought week?

….WOW!!! So… It is HOW I FEEL about something that gives the meaning to it!!!

BOOOM!!!! Yes again!! And this is a process You do it unconsciously to any given situation in Your Life. But the good news is that, having the awareness of how these stuffs work, You can consciously choose the meaning You are giving to Your reality, changing the emotional state You are in.

It sounds great!!…. But How can I do It?

The process is very simple and fun, and once You get used to it it will become automatic! I’ll guide You trough the 6 steps to change perspective!

Your Turn!!

  1. Step 1: EXPERIENCE: Think about a moment, a situation, or a challenge that You are currently facing. See it, hear it, feel it. How is it strong in a scale from 1 to 10?
  2. Step 2: AWARENESS: Then ask Yourself: What meaning AM I giving to this situation? How Is the meaning I’m giving to this situation serving me? What am I focusing on?
  3. Step 3: PERSPECTIVE: If I could change the meaning of this situation, which one could I choose? Which other meaning, that will serve me better, CAN I give to this situation? What else? What else? (be creative and see how many different meaning You can give to that situation)
  4.  Step 4: CHOICE: Now choose the meaning that serve You better and start creating the new story of the event based on it.
  5. Step 5: LESSON: Everything in Life happens for a reason. And the reason is that in any given event there is a lesson to learn for our physical, mental or spiritual development. Until we learn the lesson, other similar events will keep on recurring in our life, in order to help us fulfilling our purpose. This is the nature of KARMA. The last question is the reflection on the lesson presented in the event. Instead of asking “Why this always happen to me?” use smarter questions like: What was in it for me? What is the lesson I got to learn here? Knowing what I know now, what can I do next time? and now, be still, listen to your inner voice and pick the first world, image or sensation that comes up to You. Don’t judge it, because this Your lesson, given from Your Greatest Master.
  6. Step 6: ASSESSMENT: Now assess Yourself about the situation asking: In a scale from 1 to 10, how strong is my feeling towards that situation?  And measure Your progress from the first answer.

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May Your perspective be always FUN!!!

Simone Vincenzi                              ~Your Power to Shine~