“Everybody talks about values. When we talk about market values, added values, business values, people values we are referring to the inner force driving everything towards the ultimate destination”. – Simone Vincenzi
Hello dear souls! I hope I am finding you well and happy with this post.
If you are now reading this post, it means you are looking for something deeper that what you just perceive. It means that you are looking for the reason why, the inner force that drives you towards the choices you make on a daily basis.
If you haven’t read yet the first post I have written about Values, and you are asking yourself the question What are my Core Values?, I invite you to read now also What do You VALUE the most?.
Neuro Linguistic Programming call those inner forces Core Values. This is what are our human values. An inner force that drive us towards every decision we make, each moment of our life. It is a big statement, I know! But what if this is actually true? What if we really have some moral values that are, ultimately, shaping our destiny and what we get from life? What if there is an energy that, starting from our subconscious mind direct us, like rails, on the destination we are going to achieve?
Now that we have understood how much our values are determining our whole life, the question that might pop into your head now could be:
What can I do to elicit my values?
If You are asking yourself this question you are going the find the answer in the following paragraphs.
As you understood perfectly, eliciting our values is the most important thing we can do to check if what we are doing, the actions we take and the decision we make, are in alignment with who we really are and what is subconsciously driving us.
When You are aware of what your core values are you will be able to make the right choice in every given situation,without stepping in any self-sabotaging behaviour, which 90% of the time, comes from an incongruity between our beliefs, actions and our inner values.
Can You see now how important is to be aware of your Core Values?
Now, following, you find a process that will support you during the elicitation of Your Core Values. Invite you to keep asking those questions for, at least, 5 min and dig deeper every time. Sometimes our Operational Values got hidden from our Idealistic Values.
If you want to know what is the difference between our Operational Values and our Idealistic Values you might want to read What do You VALUE the most?
Enjoy the Process and have fun while doing it. There is no right or wrong answer, just your perfect and whole being.
I invite you also to share your thought at the bottom of the page after the exercise. How did you found it?
Now chose an area of your Life. Like Career, Fun, Family, Friends, Leisure, Health, Love, Relationships…. Pick up the area that is the most important for you right now and ask yourself the following questions. I invite you also to write down the answers so you can keep track of your thoughts.
- What is most important to you in the chosen area?
- What else?
- Keep asking those questions at least for 5 min and write down the first thing that is coming up into your mind, even if it is the same of the previous thought.
- Then look at the way you make decision in the chosen area. Pick up a couple of times when you had to make important decisions in those areas.
- What Value was that decision serving? Was it adventure. security, uncertainty, love, contribution, growth, appreciation…?
- Now pick up another example and ask the same question.
- Now think about what pushes your button in the chosen area, what is that really moves you to take action?
- And now find the patterns. Assessing your decisions, actions, thoughts and feelings, What is the value that has been served the most.
In this post you have learnt how your core values are affecting your reality and one of the most effective way to elicit them. Now that you have this awareness I am confident you are going to assess accurately what decision to make in alignment with what is driving you.
I’d love to hear from You and what do You think about the article.