Overcoming Challenges: The fine art of Acceptancy

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA“I embrace the imperfections and celebrate them.”             Kesha

Struggles, desires, challenges, wants and needs. Sometimes, through the storms and winds of everyday’s challenges,  it seems there is no time or space to enjoy Life. It feels we are like little hamsters, trying to keep up running on our wheel of bills, responsibilities and duties.

Until last year I was running on this wheel. My thoughts were focused on how to pay my bills, how to have enough money for my basics, where I was going to get waisted on the weekend or planning a holiday in the best place to get waisted.

That thoughts and that lifestyle, even though I enjoyed it, don’t resonate with me any more. I’m now looking for something else, I’m now looking for a deeper meaning behind my actions and outcomes.

So, one sunny day of July 2011, motivated by the insightful and eye-opening Experience Week in the spiritual community of Findhorn in Scotland, the spiritual teachers and motivators I was listening to, I choose to change. I choose to take responsibility of my Life. I choose to identify my purpose and do the best I could do to live with integrity and do my part in the world. I choose to make the first step and allow the abundance I deserved to come into my Life.

From that moment, the moment I took that decision, my Life unfolded in ways I would never expected….

I’ve been given more challenges than before, more deep dark moments, more situations in which I didn’t now how I was going to make it. But it wasn’t all. Alongside with challenges I’ve been given all the help and the support to mature, grow and overcome them. I’ve been meeting loving people who became the friends that never hesitated to help me when I was in need and to celebrate joyful and happy moments. I’ve been given all the opportunities I was looking for in the field I’m working and I’ve been given the wisdom to follow through every tough moment.

…well… Have You ever found Yourself asking the question “Why me?” “Why do I have to through all this crap?”

You bet it!!! And it wasn’t long time ago since the last time. Have You ever experienced these moments where everything seems to go wrong? where health, finances and emotional balance seems to say goodbye, take a flight and go in holiday in the Canary Islands? It was one night, stuck in my bad with a terrible headache, I decided to listen to one of the conference call from the online seminar, Healing with the Masters, hosted by Jennifer McLean, interviewing the spiritual teacher Panache Desai.

It was the first time for me to hear his Truths. His words resonate within me immediately and his message, so clear and straight to the point, like an arrow, brake through my heart.

… and what was his message?

His message was very simple and comforting. I broke it down for You in little steps.

  • STRESS IS OUR CLOSEST FRIEND. IT SHOWS US WHAT CHANGES WE HAVE TO MAKE IN OUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU AND YOUR LIFE.
  • THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX.
  • EVERYTHING IS PERFECT AS IT IS. YOU AND THE REALITY YOU ARE EXPERIENCING.
  • EMBRACE EVERY MOMENT, EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS TO YOU.
  • EVERYTHING THAT YOU FEEL AND HAPPENS IS THE OPPORTUNITY YOU’VE BEEN WAITING FOR YOUR GROWTH. 

His key message is to EMBRACE AND ACCEPT OURSELVES IN THE WAY WE ARE AND OUR EXPERIENCE AS OUR GREATEST MASTER.

I’ve heard these concepts before, but now I was ready to really listen and learn.

And if You are here, it means You are now ready. If You are here it means that You want something more from Life and that You want to give more.

Well, I’m not saying this is easy to do, and I’m not saying that the pain of some experiences is easy to overcome. And it is fine to experience that pain, it is fine to experience that sorrow, it is fine to experience that frustration. There is nothing wrong with all of that. It is part of our human experience, it is part of our beauty. But we don’t want to stay stuck in this cycle. We want to acknowledge them just as they are: feelings. When we experience this new realm of reality, when we are willing to surrender to our experience, embrace it and learn from it, we are then ready to be thankful to what happened to us and to move on, grown and stronger than before.

….and what happens next?… what happens after I embrace my feelings and my experience?

I cannot tell You what will happen to You, that will be Your reality and part of Your own path. But I can share with You what happened to me. As soon as I stepped in this process, something amazing started to manifest. My body started healing immediately, I received a phone call who sorted out my financial situation and amazing opportunities opened up for the near future. It seems like somebody was just waiting for me to make this step. It seems like somebody listened to my call. I cannot express the feeling of gratitude I have now in my chest. I’m now certain that no matter what, everything is going to be fine, because, no matter what everything is fine in every moment.

Your turn:

If You are now facing a tough period in one area of Your Life, I’d love to share with You these steps that helped Me to detach, embrace, assess and brake through. I hope this will be useful also for You.

  1.  Take a breath. A very long deep breath.
  2. Focus Your attention on Your hearth, feel Your Heart, feel that sacred space, where no worries or problems are allowed, that place where You are an infinite field of possibilities, that place that is the realm of Love.
  3. Now say to Yourself, like talking to a little child, that everything is perfect as it is. That You are perfect as You are. That there is nothing to be worried about. That everything is fine. Ensure Yourself like You were the most important person in the world.
  4. Now ask Yourself the following questions and write down the first thing that comes into your mind. Don’t judge it, even if it seems it has no sense. Remember, there is no thing that is meaningless.
  5. What is in this experience for me? What can I learn?
  6. What is in this experience for Us? What can We learn?
  7. Knowing what I know now, what can i do different next time?
  8. Knowing what I know now, what can I say to myself next time I’m going to live this experience?
  9. And now be thankful to yourself, be thankful to your experience and be thankful to your emotions.
  10. You are now ready to move, stronger than before, wiser than before, and more focused than before. You now know what to do. Don’t wait more. Do it! and enjoy the gift of Life.

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May You always embrace the perfection of Your reality!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~

 

 

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Leadership: a way of Life

“Leadership is diving for a lose ball, getting the crowd involved, getting other players involved, it’s being able to take it, as well as to dish it out. That’s the only way you are going to get respect from the players.” Larry Bird

Good morning to You! I wish I’m finding You well and Happy while writing.

Today is a meaningful day for me, a day of excitement, power, reflection and feelings. Today is a day I’ve been waiting for long time. Tomorrow, with the uberrocking Team Wandsworth, is going to start the Autumn NCS (National Citizen Service), where more than 300 Young Adults will experience a Challenging Leadership program, that will finish with the creation of a social action that will positively impact the life of the community they are living in.

As I stated at the beginning today is a day of feelings… A cocktail of Excitement, Expectation, Expectancy are running through my body, blended in the shaker of Uncertainty and Curiosity. A lot of thoughts are running between my years right now. And the one I picked up to develop in this post is the main reason Why the NCS will be so life changing for the life of these Young Adults.

Leadership…

What is really leadership? It is not just one of the most frequents words used in today’s society. It is not just a skill. It is not just concept.

So…. What is Leadership?

I believe that Larry Bird, one of the best NBA player of all history, flag of the Boston Celtics in the 80’s, is a living example of what, how, who and why a great Leader is.

A Leader, is the person who is the first to jump in and the last to surrender. A Leader is the one who dives for the loose ball, putting aside the fears and should, taking the jump into the risk.

A Leader is the person that with his charisma and actions excites the crowd, and get all the people around involved and willing to support him. A Leader has the ability to excite.

A Leader is the person who takes the risk and responsibility when necessary, but also empowers others to do the same, stepping aside and motivating from the back.

A Leader is the person that through his words and actions is able to get the respect from the others.

A Leader is not just a Leader for one day. Leadership is an attitude. Leadership is a habit.

Leadership is being coherent and true each moment and in each situation.

Leadership is Change.

This is the reason why I’m so excited about NCS. The seeds of leadership will be planted in the adults of tomorrow, the adults that will lead us in the future!!! Come on!! Let’s make it!!

I wish You an empowering day and we see each other in a week!!

ps. I’ll keep an audioblog for updates from the site and I’ll share with you the exciting and challenging experience!

Much Love to You

Because You have the Power to Shine

 

 

The power of saying “NO”.

Hello dear! It Is fantastic to connect with you again.

I hope your day has been amazing such has been mine!

And here we are again, talking tonight about The Power of saying NO.

Reflecting about what was the lesson for me today, few images came into my mind.  2 different moment, with 2 different people, but the same underlying pattern. Both of them were complaining about how much of their life they are spending inside the work environment, their lack of social life and the time to improve it.  I can understand how frustrating this situation can be. The feeling of control gets easily replaced by a feeling of overwhelm and guilt.

Getting to the root of why they are allowing so many things to put off other important areas of their life, the main pattern I have uncovered was, for both of them, the great difficulty to say NO to other people.

And that led me to think about why it is so difficult to say this little word, but soaked with huge emotions attached to it.

Generally people that never say no, are so driven to help out other people, and please others wants and needs, that  they lose the focus on the helper. They care  more about others than they care of themselves. So it seems that the root cause is really remarkable and highly positive. But what is this behaviour leading to? Generally to an increasing sense of frustration for not having accomplished our daily, small or big goals.

So what is the root cause of this behaviour?

Well It comes generally from our childhood and from the set of core values we hold about our life. Some people can have as core value “RECOGNITION”, so they feel good and important just when they are recognised from an external source and they are unconsciously doing everything to meet this value. Other times they can hold the belief that “Is not safe to speak up”, or they might fear of being rejected if they don’t please others (one of our most common and diffused fears). And these fears, limiting beliefs and values might create a sense of guilt, and a drive to overdoing for others. Depleting ourself from the energy that allow us to do what we really want.

Just think about it for a moment.

You might know somebody, maybe very close to you, that have the same behaviour.

I firmly believe that I’m the creator of my own reality, and that episode led me to think about the question. ” What is in me now that is creating this events?”

So I recognise that a lot of times I have the same pattern and behaviour. In particular regarding pleasing others needs and wants for the fear of being rejected from them. And Is in these times that I remind myself a simple thinking process that really helped me develop in this area.

I’ve been introduced to the concept that there is no thing such as NO. There is always Yes. The matter is to see where the Yes is directed to. When we say Yes to others, we are, maybe, saying No to ourself. And when we say No to others we are, maybe, saying Yes to ourself.

When was the last time you said Yes to Yourself?

How did you feel?

I believe that there always must be a balance between the Yes we are saying to ourself and the Yes said to others.

And I’m committed to keep this balance and treat myself like I would treat the person I care most on the Earth. I’ve experienced that just when I feel happy and full of energy I have more impact in other people’s life, and I can be more helpful for them.

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May your journey be always happy!