“Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character. ” Steven Covey
Hi!! I hope You all had a wonderful Christmas time, and that you were able to spend it with the people you love the most! I had an amazing time too and I’m convinced that this year has been the most meaningful I have ever had.
Following the reflection on the last days, I decided that the topic of this post will be LIFE PATTERNS.
What are Life Patterns?
First of all I’d love to share with you the etymology and the dictionary definition of the word pattern, to better link it with what our life pattern are.
PATTERN: from the Latin PATRON: a model to be imitated.
PATTERN:a combination of qualities, acts, tendencies, etc., forming a consistent or characteristic arrangement: the behaviour patterns of teenagers.
What can we see reading these definitions? What really is a pattern?
A pattern is a model, a model that repeats or can be repeated over and over again.
Well… and what is the link between our patterns and our behaviour?
Well questioned!! What is behaviour? Behaviour is a series of actions, feelings and thoughts that, repeated over and over again, become part of our identity and the way we perceive ourself or others. A behaviour is just a series of patterns. First of all we need to understand how our mind works.
Tony Buzan, leading expert in the field of discovering human potential, offers an excellent analogy describing the working modalities of our mind. “Think at the brain’s capacity as a huge neural jungle. A jungle with billions and billions of potential connection and neural networks. Imagine the first person who attempts to run through the jungle; it is thick and they battle through. When the next person comes along in the same area, they will see a slight path trodden by the first person. After a dozen or so people have gone through, there is a clear flattened pathway and anyone coming to the jungle, will automatically use the path rather than go into the undergrowth. So, the one single pathway gets ever easier and an automatic choice.
Think about your patterns in the same way. Once you learn to think and respond in the same way, this way of behaving becomes increasingly automatic.
….I don’t get what you are trying to say… I got what patterns are… but what is the link between our patterns and our life?
Hey!!! Hold on!! I’m getting there!!
Now that you know that our patterns are what condition our behaviour and our perception of the world, leading our thinking process, we can use the same analogy to think about our life.
Think about your life as a series of repeating patterns. We, subconsciously, have a series of embedded patterns that we learned from our parents and society in our early childhood, which we are mostly not aware of.
Think about your life for a moment…
It never happen to you to say: “Oh… Not again…” and it seems you have had this experience before? Or: “Yes!! I’m always lucky when talking about..!!”…. etch…
Think about yourself financially, in relationships, with friends, in business…
What cyclical patterns can you see? What experiences, people and behaviours seems repeating in your life?
For example, I have a very strong self sabotaging pattern when talking about finances, and it seems it is “impossible” and difficult for me to save money. I am compelled to invest or spend what I have. I am now working on it, but before I wasn’t aware of it and I always ended up, for different reasons, being broke. But I have another pattern that set myself financially at at least, 1000£. So it always happen that I find a way and opportunities to back myself up.
I’m telling my story because I wish you can understand your patterns and, if they are not serving you or sabotaging you, you will do something about it. Awareness is the key of change.
…Wow… this is a complete new way of seeing life… I don’t believe it. Who is telling me you are right?
Well pointed. I’m not asking you to believe me. This is what makes sense to me, and this is what I believe. Just you can know the answer. Dig deeper within yourself and see if what I’m telling resonates with you.
Before I go I want to share with you what is the real impact of these patterns in your life and why you want to work on your patterns.
Life patterns are embedded in our subconscious mind and collective mind. Like everything in the Universe, they are a series of vibrating frequencies that attract the same energy and the same frequencies.
What does it mean? It means that if you are not aware of your patterns and you don’t work on them, you’ll keep attracting the same situations and manifesting the same reality in your life, however you like it or not.
If you need support working in depth and analyse your life patterns, contact me or send me a private message and I’ll be honoured to share with you the process I use, that so far, made a massive impact in my life, in particular in the area of relationships.